Found money, Am I right to be annoyed?

Question

was on a night out last night for a friends 40th. There were 15 of us and I didn't know most people. We went to a club and I found £70 on the floor! I told 2 of the girls and said I must hand it in. One of them said if it had a purse or wallet with it (it was just cash) then yes but how do you know who's it is and that they thought the staff may pocket it.

I kept hold of it, not knowing what to do when about 20 minutes later a girl in the group who I had not met before started crying and frantically going through her bag, I asked what was was wrong and she said she had lost all her money, around £50 she thought, I told her I had found some money and it must have been hers and handed it over.

She was very thankful and I was happy I had done the right thing however, the girl never even offered to buy me a drink!!

Am I right to be annoyed? Or am I wrong to have expected some sort of reward?

I just want to add, their was no expectation of reward and I was very happy my concience was clear however, during the course of the rest of the evening, I bought this girl 2 drinks as she was sat with our group and she never returned the favour, the drinks were given without the expectation she would buy back but I just woke up this morning thinking tight cow!

Answer 1

I Think I would probably be a little annoted,too, if it were me. Perhaps your reward will come later from another source just because yiu DID do the right thing

Answer 2

She lost 50 and you found 70. So that sounds like it might not have been hers. How do you know that the 2 girls who you told didn't scam you? She did not even give you a drink or anything though which seems like what a cheat would do. In the future be more discreet. You are annoyed because 1. you do not know if the money even belonged to the girl, 2 she only thanked you with words and not actions. So in the future just think it through first, always, think before acting. I don't think its best to drink when you go out if you want to meet people. Just pause, think, then act. Just some suggestion.

Answer 3

Its probobly normal for you to be a little flustered that she didnt compensate you at all. But you shouldnt really be bothered because you didnt get a reward. Your reward was her thanking you frantically and the feeling that you did the right thing. Maybe her thanking you and such was her idea of a good enough reward. Either way you did a great thing you acted unselfishly and you eased her mind good job man. You deserve a pat on the back

Answer 4

You should feel good about doing the right thing without the need for a reward. Sometimes when people go through a stressed or shocked time they forget to do a polite thing back because the adrenaline has just coursed through their bodies.
You have earned a good karma point and it will get repaid to you at some other time in your life.

Answer 5

Ha! i think she should have rewarded you with something, becuase for one you really didnt have to give it back whether it was hers or not, you were sincere about it which in many cases people arent, their just greedy. but really you had nothing to loose because it wasn't your money. I've heard stories about missing wallets being returned and the owner would give 20 bucks as a reward, yea you have a right to be annoyed, i probably would have wanted a reward also

Answer 6

It must've sucked to feel like she wasn't grateful.
It doesn't change how good the thing you did was, though. Dozens of people will be on here badmouthing that gift, but often I find giving is its own reward. You feel good for making someone happy, even if they're too drunk to remember in the morning, or they just don't recognise how kind you've been.
I'd like to think Id have done the same as you, and it's nice to hear there are still people like you in the world.

Thanks for being great.

And yes, you did the right thing. :-)

Answer 7

yes be very annoyed with YOURSELF for telling your mates.

They are the ones told the tearful girl about the cash, and hatched a plan to stage the entire episoide. They then divved up the cash between the 3 of them. Never consider just how convenient that staged scene was? The clincher is the total contempt for your honesty, the supposed "victim" who lost th cash was probably laughing too hard on the other side of her face to even pretend to thank you love.

Keep silent next time and treat yourself.

Answer 8

You did the right thing. If she was that upset about the money though, she might not have been in a place to spare some on an extra drink for you. Either way doing something good is a reward in itself.

Answer 9

You shouldn't expect anything from just doing the right thing. Yes, it would have been nice for her to buy you a drink, but she wasn't morally obligated to do so. She probably just didn't think about it, really. If she didn't say "thank you" and just grabbed it, now that would have been rude. Think about it this way--you did the right thing and you should be proud with the way you handled it. . . THAT is the reward.

Answer 10

I should be grateful that you know in your heart that you did the right thing and helped put this girl out of her misery.
She may not have meant to offend you by not offering a reward; she was probably in a state of shock at losing the money, and in the relief of finding it again, she forgot all about manners.
You can hold your head high and know that your an honest person.

YNWA