Sometimes I felt like I wanted to talk to someone with all this personal issues I'm facing right now, but then I'll realize that who am I kidding, I can't do that.
I don't have a life partner, or the kind of friends that I can talk to (they don't do that with me either). I can't talk to my parents either, besides it being damn awkward, they'll never understands.
So I never really get to talk to anyone about all my problems, but I'm just wondering had I have someone I could talk to, would things be different for me?
2007-09-16 06:48:15 · 8 answers · asked by Hornet One 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
There are a lot of people who use self-talk to handle what is going inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. Brain’s reticular activating system never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this system can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.
2007-09-16 07:08:15 · answer #1 · answered by b_banth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem with being a loner until you feel the need to lift some invisible weights off your shoulder. For me, I've my older brother and older sister. I suggest finding a holy place where older and wiser people are. Most are more than willing to listen and share. Wherever that place may be, a church, a spiritual home. You may need to check a few places out before you get to a place where you feel comfortable and unsmothered. I know that may be a task for a loner but some of the people you meet along that trail are amazing. Even if you don't find a place, you will more than likely find someone inspiring.
2007-09-16 07:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by Wickwire 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Friends are not only good to talk to, but have often been through similar problems and can have practical advice that you haven't thought of. You might want to find a support group, or an online forum or chat room for support in your personal problems. I've gotten a lot of help for personal problems online.
2007-09-16 06:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by diceroll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes being a loner can be tough. I am one too. But you know what you could do? Keep a journal. (Not a diary.) Just write down randomely what you feel you need to get out. Nobody needs to know and it can really help with stress and akwardness.
2007-09-16 07:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by Egyptian Dragon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One of my professors told me as an undergraduate (and there was some research to back this up) that that was why people went to counselors. Counselors were nothing more than a paid confidential "friend". And an educated one at that! (Hopefully)
2007-09-16 06:56:31 · answer #5 · answered by cavassi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I too am a loner, and have no desire to share any problems, but if you feel the need to share your problems, it would of course be better for you.
2007-09-16 06:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by joe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be different. If you had somebody to talk to, they would understand how you're feeling and they will help you and be there for you. You can talk to me if you want (=
2007-09-16 07:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by blahhhh. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no sometimes it acually makes it better.
2007-09-16 06:51:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋