This is embarrassing, but is this true about conveiving a child?

Question

I've been married for 4 years now and my husband and I are not trying to have a baby as of yet. I got married when I was 18, so I was very young. People (and by people, I mainly mean my parents) claim that it's not good to wait too long to have your first child because it can be harder to conceive. I feel like they are only saying so, so that they can have grandchildren. Is what they're saying true? And what is the proof of this?

I know that it's not good to wait too long, therefore, we want to have all our kids before I'm 30, hopefully. Right now, I'm 22.

And I know it's important to calculate one's ovulation cycle also.

Answer 1

You don't need to worry a thing about ovulation dates unless you have had problems conceiving.

My only advice is to have a doctor make sure that you don't have endometriosis. Otherwise, whenever you are ready to have a baby, then go for it. Medically, the ideal time to have a baby is between the ages of 21-26 because this is the time when the least complications arise.

Answer 2

Women are born with a set number of eggs. When you are young, you have many, so the chance of conceiving is much greater. Your eggs age along with you, meaning "older" eggs that get fertilized, are of a lower quality. The chance of having a child with birth defects or other disabilities becomes greater as well. Most women have plenty of eggs left at the age of 25-30, it is when you get to the age of 35-45 that you risk being able to conceive or having children with birth defects. However, this is not always the case, many women within that age range conceive with no problem and have perfectly healthy children. Good luck, it is all a matter of personal choice. Do what you think is best for you and your future children.

Answer 3

I don't think there is any decrease in fertility until at least 27. And many people have a baby well after that time. I waited until I was 32 to have a baby and my little girl is very healthy. My best advice- don't be pressured by others. You will know when it is right for you. My husband and I were married almost 9 years before I got pregnant and it was the right decision for us.

Answer 4

What they are saying is incorrect as you thought. There is no difference between trying to conceive at 20 or at 25 or at 30. Troubles usually start around the age of 35. And by troubles, I mean that there can be more difficulties surrounding the pregnancy and the child (More cases of down's syndrome and other disabilities).

Have children when you are good and ready. And tell your parents they are just going to have to wait for their grand kiddies! Smart you for doing what you want.

Answer 5

will you still young.. My friend just had her second baby sept 1 and she has three year old.
and she about 22 year old..

It doesn't matter when you start have family...


If you read some books about how late pregnant is about age of 35 and older it harder to conceiving a child.
I am expecting my first in few weeks and i am just few year older then you..and i got marry young too
it was unplanned pregnant but me and my husband is excited.

you can always talk to your obgyn.

Answer 6

Everyone's body is different, some people get pregnant on the first try. Others try for months and then get pregnant, some have to go on fertility drugs to get pregnant and others can't have babies.
I would say your parents are trying to pressure you to give them grandchildren. I had my son who is now 12 at 20 (2 wks after i turned 20) and we are 37 wks and 3 days pregnant right now with our girl. It took us 4 months to get pregnant then we lost the baby via miscarriage at about 5 wks when we had only known for a wk. The doc gave us the go ahead 3 wks later to try again and we had success the first try. I am 32 and my husband is 33. Again, it depends on the women and how her body is and how fertile her husband is at how fast they get pregnant or how slowly.

Answer 7

It is true that it can get harder to conceive, but usually not until you're close to 40. I really don't think you have anything to worry about!! Don't let your parents push you to do anything your not ready for. Enjoy your husband, enjoy being young! There is plenty of time for babies and no way for you to take it back once they're there! Being a parent is a full time job, don't go into it for anyone but yourselves!!

Answer 8

It's true if people wait until their later 30s to start trying for a baby, but you are young enough that it should not be an issue. Don't let people force to to do something that you are not ready for. I was 34 when my son was born and I have no problem getting pregnant, but due to health issues I had several miscarriages and a late term infant loss.

Answer 9

It is true that the older you are the harder it is to have a baby. So dont try when you are like 40 or something. I am 20 and I am 11 weeks pregnant. You are only 22, you have plenty of time. Dont listen to your parents. they just want grandkids that they can spoil.

Answer 10

The average woman produces so many egg follicles at younger ages then that number decreases with age but there are plenty of younger woman that still have problems getting pregnant so even at your age you could have problems. It is just an individual thing based on each woman and what problems they may or may not have. Don't have a baby until you and your husband feel you are ready or if your body just decides it is time before you know it lol.