I am getting ready to move out for the first time. I don't know if I should get an apartment near my family so they can help me out, or if I should move to a less expensive state. I love traveling. Should I stay in state for a few years and then move out of state? Stay nearby my family and make a life myself here? Or move out of state, where if anything happens my family isn't very close to help me?
2007-09-16 06:39:55 · 12 answers · asked by Kim 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Nothing beats the freedom of being on your own. If you chose to move, choose one that does not have a state income tax.
Even if you move out of state, your family will do what they can to help you out.
So, that being said, move to a location that you love, or one that will rocket boost your career in lightspeed.
2007-09-16 07:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by Christmas Light Guy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of your decision on where do live will depend on your job. If you can find a job close to your family, go and do it! If your job is more specialized (e.g. business exec), you might have to move far away to get the job you want. If you are asking about how you should relate to your family, you should try to be close to your family. Being close to your family is not "sissy." Time really flies and seeing your family only at Christmas is tough. You sound like you are young, but before you know it, your parents will be older and you might regret all that time apart. I don't mean to be negative, but in all honesty, nobody can predict the future. Your parents might live into their 80s, but there are parents who pass away in their 40s and 50s. Even those who are healthy and fit. Moving to a less expensive state isn't always a winning solution bc though the cost of living might be lower, the wages are also lower. You might also consider not moving out. If you get along with your parents and it's ok with them, you might stay at home. In the olden days, several generations lived in the same farm house. But if you live at home, you have to respect their rules.
2007-09-18 02:12:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a lot of factors. Can you afford a decent apartment in the area that you live in now? Is your family planning in staying, or is there a chance they might move. You could always get an apartment close by for now, then give it a year or two to save some money and see what happens.
2007-09-16 13:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by Catnip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was worried I couldn't make it without my family. I was 29 and a single mom. I moved away because they were controlling me and I wanted to prove to myself that I CAN DO IT, lol. I was so dependent on them. I had a car accident, and I got pregnant again (not as bad as it sounds, lol.. I was going to get invitro fertilization in a few years, so I was happy about it. If a child gets through protection, she is meant to be). I couldnt' work with my pregnancy. I had really hard times. I think looking back that I attracted those incidents into my life so that I could prvoe that I could do it. I learned that I can do it. The world is full of good people, my children are amazing and pitch in when things are tough, and although my mom came up 2 times to help me, I would have survived without it. finincally, I realized taht I can do it!! Moving further away increases your self confidence. I can't believe I hung onto those apron strings for so many years! I am much happier now.
2007-09-16 13:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a close apt near your family. Then once you get into the feeling that you dont need your family to help you anymore, find a place where ever you want like out of state.
2007-09-16 14:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all the turmoil in the world today, you might be safer to first move into a small apartment in your hometown and have your family near by.
Later, if you wish, once you realize all that "being on your own means"....you could try another state. Trust me, been here, done that and nothing beats HOME.
BLessings, Patti
2007-09-17 12:03:20 · answer #6 · answered by Patti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would rent an apartment not too far from your parents, so you can visit them often. Why move out of state, right now? Living near family will be good for you, especially if you need your parents for something, or vice versa.
2007-09-16 13:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing can be worse than being away from your friends and loved ones. Keep that in mind when you move. If you make friends easily, that will help a lot. If you join a church, that can be a great family resource in the absence of your biological family.
2007-09-16 19:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by C.Thomas.H. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should go to a different state because u like to travel and u feel much more independent when u move away on your own, i suggest new England, particular Massachusetts. the seasons r beautiful, the city of Boston is great, and its not to expensive.
2007-09-16 19:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by Voyager 8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go to a different state because you said that you like to travel so that is what I think that you should do.
2007-09-16 13:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by dance_dream_live_4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋