just like something is missing from the story? how do you deal with this??
2007-09-16 05:47:32 · 17 answers · asked by Benny 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This happens in two different conditions
(1) The person is not sure whether he/she can trust you and is keeping certain parts from you.
(2) You have trust problems and you think there is more to something, even though there is really nothing further than what is revealed.
Both the above are caused by a faulty communication between the two parties. And once this condition has set in, it is almost impossible to change the attitudes in either case by building trust etc.
You are not really worried about the truth. You are worried about whether there is anything more to come. You wish for certainty regardless of whatever the truth is.
It is very very very difficult to deal with this and reap success. I have no solution to offer. I can only define the problem.
2007-09-16 06:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by UseAnotherNickname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not get any truth out of the one person who I want it most from. But keep your eye and soul on GOD not man. I am having a hard time dealing with it. I am physically ill when I think of it......... in fact I think I am going to go throw up right now because you hit it right on the head for me!!!!!! I live with a LIAR and it is so SAD. He could be a great man but his childish immature ways cause such pain upon his family that if he loses us again, then it will be no one's fault but his because he has never learned to tell the truth. If he could things could be so wonderful. ITs the LIES THATS HURT AND THE DISRESPECT IT SHOWS.
2007-09-16 12:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG YES.....
I've got a teenage son who doesn't know the difference between the whole truth OR whole wheat bread.
I used to try to get the whole truth...but I've decided that I should really put that energy into my job, breathing, sleeping, eating and just living my life cause the whole truth just ain't gonna happen.
2007-09-16 12:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by ANewLife 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all of the time.
you deal with it by formulating relevant questions and asking them until you get the full story. This worked for me in law enforcement, works great as an engineer, and is a time saver as a father (no kid tell the truth - just what they think is the truth)
2007-09-16 12:52:42 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. PhD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. If it's in a personal relationship, I'd be direct with the person by saying something like, "You know, I don't get the feeling you're being totally honest with me. It seems like you're hiding something. Are you? If I've done something that makes you feel uncomfortable opening up with me and being honest what is it so I can create an environment where you feel safe with me?"
2007-09-16 12:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to expand on this for us to help you. But I would say watch and wait, and just be your normal self, and then the person who you are not getting the whole truth from will eventually trip themselves up and you will then find it all out.
2007-09-16 12:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ask questions until I feel like I have the whole story.
2007-09-16 12:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to and trust your gut instinct. The fact that you feel this way means that you are picking up on clues that someone is not telling the truth.
2007-09-16 13:19:25 · answer #8 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A half truth os a whole lie.
2007-09-16 12:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is always parts of life where your going to wonder, you just have to try and move on and if the whole truth isnt knowen now it will be at some point.
2007-09-16 12:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Nessaja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋