I have a relative that was caught going on the internet looking up girls no they were not totally naked but a lot of the pictures were very suggestive and when he denied it the person who busted him found a way to go on the computer and point out all the sites he was on. He said he was sorry and repented and would never do it again, between you and me I think he was only sorry because he was caught. I was happy he got busted or caught because men think they can get away with everything little did he know that a computer has a memory and stores everything you go on. It was truly an embarresing lesson.
My question is why do men do this? Not every person can be a size 6? Why do men always are attracted to things they simply should not have? Why do men feel that have the right or entitlement to lust this person may not have literally committed adultery against his wife but in a sense a grave sense he did committ adultry with his heart. What is your take on this?
2007-09-16 05:28:11 · 23 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Darlin' -
Do a PET scan of a man's brain while he views pictures of what attracts him - the pleasure centers of the brain light up.
Do a PET scan of a woman and show her pictures of what attracts her - and the response is mild... THEN bring the object of her affection into the room and have them engage in an emotionally intimate conversation (not sexual - just deeply personal) and her pleasure centers light up like the man's did.
The two human genders are programmed differently from the start.
The problem with repeatedly viewing images sans human interaction - is that the male brain will become addicted to the two dimentional imagery and will develope difficulty - only being able to get aroused by viewing photo imagery and will lose the ability to become aroused in a live relationship. Yes. Impotency.
It's called "Porn Creep."
(Don't ask me why - I didn't name it... the therapeutic counselors endeavoring to solve the problem did that.)
One way you can rest assured that the issue is terminated through THAT computer access - is a program designed to detect porn on the computer.
http://www.jesusanswers.com has a free sweep available - just like the Security Virus scans you get at Anti Virus company's websites.
Please make sure to encourage your relative to spend more time in real life in order to let his brain get back to normal functioning. It is a difficult addiction to withdraw from.
Peace.
2007-09-16 07:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully it was an embarassing lesson and that he has learned from his mistakes if not then that is very sad for his wife. But more sad for him because that is who it actually reflects upon. I do not know why men do this. Curiosity, lust etc. Everyone is different looking, that is the way God made it. A person's soul is still what should shine through. In this day and age beauty is well I won't say. Beauty is in the eye of the bedholder. People who are shallow only look at the outside. Beauty will only take you so far.
2007-09-16 05:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
My take is probably different than most.
I think everyone knows that all women can't be a size six and have DDD breasts (in fact the majority can't). He knows all to well that the women he's looking at are never going to be a reality. In reality, most men don't even really want that kind of woman, BUT that doesn't mean it isn't fun to imagine it every once in a while either.
I love my husband more than words can say, and I know he loves me, but neither of us went blind when we said I do. I know he checks out other women on occasion. As discreet as he thinks he is, he isn't, but I'm the one that he sleeps with every night and makes love to. I'm the one he comes to when he is in pain-emotionally and physically, I'm the one that bore his children, I'm the one he calls every day to chat with. Just like he is all of that for me. I have also been known to check out the "impossible" man. It's not because I would prefer this man. I wouldn't, but sometimes it's just nice to admire the view.
This guy shouldn't have lied about what he did. That just makes it look worse than it was.
2007-09-16 05:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♦justme♦ 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Same thing can be said for women as well. Why do 20 and 30 year old teachers sleep with 11 year old boys as did the female teacher in Florida did?
Why is is that females see this as okay?
Next time try not to push a whole class of people into what you perceive as the truth when it is not.
I can bring up a whole lot of situations where females did some pretty unethical/illegal things as well.
2007-09-16 05:34:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You say he is a 'relative'. What relative is he? Your husband? Your bit about not every person can be a size 6 makes me wonder if you are overweight and are concerned that he was looking cos he thinks you are fat? He was just looking cos men like to look.
Adultery in your heart - what is my take on this. Well I would say if a man is looking and thinks I'd rather xxxx her than my wife then that is adultery in his heart, but if he's just looking then its not really is it.
I can understand why you don't like it though.
2007-09-16 05:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Largely depends on the lens you're looking thru and the one you're using seems a bit dark and jaded! This sounds more like a personal axe to grind and not a statement of fact.
Women, like men, also look, also touch, also have affairs, also toy with and play games, also are deceitful and underhanded. This is not a male exclusive club.
Men and woman are also honest, sincere, open, faithful, committed, loyal and loving.
2007-09-16 05:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Wisdom??? 5 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Its not just men that do this although it might be more likely.... women just have terms like eye candy and window shopping. Its just what people do, its not a good thing to do though i don't have sympathy for the man that got caught but he was probably just looking for a little extra spice that he knew would never happen
2007-09-16 05:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tom O 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's difficult for men I believe. They are attracted to what they see (men are very visual) and women are attracted to what they hear most often. For a man to refrain from looking at beautiful women on the Internet is as hard for them as for a child with a bowl of candy in front of them who has been told "Don't touch!". Having said that, however, it does say in the Bible that if you so much as look at someone with lust you have already committed adultery in your heart - so it's up to the guys to control themselves and pray about it if they have a problem. They have to consider their partners first before their own feelings even if this means laying off the Internet and saving their marriages.
2007-09-16 05:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
i dont know whether to call it adultry or not but i feel as though these things happen and we cannot control what people do. My husband seeks out these sites with me knowing about it and i felt as though he was not interested in me anymore and was looking elsewhere for satisfaction however he told me that he wanted to find more interesting ways to improve our sex life and he sure did find some ....and then some lol.
Two can do this you know...you watch and then try them on him too!! suprise him with what he wants!!
2007-09-16 07:44:09 · answer #9 · answered by apryl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone, including women, sometimes covet what they do not have. It is a sin but thankfully something he did not act on. He probably did learn a lesson which is good. It is hard to overcome fantasies that turn us on. If he did not act it out I think he should be chastised but not considered an adulterer.
2007-09-16 05:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋