we have been together for 8years and i have a hard time getting him to pick up a broom.
2007-09-16 04:06:46 · 18 answers · asked by Zest 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a whip out and say you not help you get this. oh wait maybe that would turn him on,then get nothing done for sure,
2007-09-16 04:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start with having him hang up his own clothes, washing his own clothes, keeping his own paper work complete, make a food list and go to the store. Wash the car, clean the garage,
take the dirty dishes into the kitchen from the living room. Take out the trash and clean up trash area outside. Make a man list. That will include his stuff. The broom and cleaning the sink is more for women. maybe after he is good with his man list later he will mot mined the broom. My husband loves his man list because I won't have to tell him what to do he has his list. Good Luck
2007-09-16 11:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him this, I as a husband that helps my wife
to mop, sweep, dust, cook, iron, and anything else
that is needed around the house because that is
what makes it a home. Husbands need to take part
in helping around the house because both parties
live there and marriage is about sharing in keeping
the home a home.That is why we have been
happily married over 20yrs.
2007-09-16 11:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One trains a dog...not a human. You married the man "as/is" if you wanted a man who could do housework you should not have married this man. When one goes into a marriage to change the other person they are building their marriage upon a lie and that marriage is doomed to failure.
2007-09-16 13:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on something sexy and start cleaning yourself and he will be motivated to jump in and help because he'll want to be near you. You may find your sex life more fun and creative that way too. If that doesn't work let the house go until he says you both need to get in there and clean.
2007-09-16 12:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by Christy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop cleaning. When he notices the house is dirty, ask him when the two of you are going to clean it. If he claims he doesn't have time. Agree that you also don't have time, period. End of discusssion. The thing you DON'T want to do is become angry, defensive, or attacking. Always talk in a calm voice, matter-of-factly stating that you can't do it.
2007-09-16 11:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nagging won't work. It will just make him stubborn and you hard to live with. You can be nice about things and maybe he'll come around. Good luck, I'm giving you a star.
2007-09-16 11:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by jacquie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a great book out called, " Get him down, keep him down, cut his nuts off and hand them to him." This is required reading for all pre-marital couples. Recommended by Gloria Steinem.
2007-09-16 11:20:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You knew this for 8 years am I right? Why would you want to be with a man who can not clean up after himself. Why do women think they can change a man? You can only change if HE WANTS TO BE CHANGED.
2007-09-16 13:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Compare him to another man, like a friend's boyfriend/husband and say how much "he" helps "her" around the house or fixes things. Guys seem to listen more when you're not nagging but comparing them to another...I guess it gets their testosterone going. Good Luck!
2007-09-16 11:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by Rabbit 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sit down and discuss household chores and that's both inside and out. If he helps inside you help outside or you do trade offs for instance he cuts the grass you do the laundry etc.....Works for my wife and I.
2007-09-16 11:13:38 · answer #11 · answered by miester44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋