Hi. I am in my early 40's and my wife early 30's. We've been married for 10 years. My wife is very attractive, but I'm losing interest in having sex with her. Its a strange feeling, but I feel like I shouldn't be sexually attracted to her. Sort of like you wouldn't want to think anything sexual about your close family members - your brother, sister, parents, etc. I find myself trying to not look at my wife sexually. I find other women sexually attractive though. Do other men feel like this? What can I do about this? I find myself trying to avoid sex anyway possible with my wife.
2007-09-16 03:57:31 · 8 answers · asked by lucky0505 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think u might want to question yourself on why u r feeling this way. I mean y on earth shouldnt u b sexually attracted to your spouse? Yikes - u SHOULD b!! That is such a huge part of marriage. In fact, i think most couples with problems in their marriage feel that the sex part of it suffers first. So this is an early sign to fix whatever the heck is the problem with the 2 of u. It may not even b the sex, or the lack of attraction ... think hard, cuz this may b a symptom of the real problem.
Is it becuz you have fallen out of love with her? Boredom or problems in bed? Did u find others attractive even when u were attracted to your wife? Are u a one woman kinda man, and your spouse isnt the 'one' anymore?
Take your time to think about all this stuff. If you still are having trouble, i would suggest talking to your wife, and mayb a doctor to help you sort this out. Sure ya get the quick answers from the internet, but this is really important and worth seeking professional help.
Good luck to both you and your wife.
2007-09-16 04:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG!! That was my story 100%. Im 42 my wife is 25 and totally hot. Having sex with her is a complete bore. That happens dude. Show me a beautiful women and I will show u a man who is sick of fu3king her. There is nothing wrong you. The second you are with someone else you are going to get all that passion youve lost back in you and enjoy sex again. I avoided having sex with her for the last 5 months and would tell her flat out I have no interest in having sex w/u. Leave me alone. Shes moving out on Tuesday. I guess she couldnt do the 6 months. Just cut her off and u will be free again soon enough. I know I should be sad and feel bad that my marriage failed,but for some reason Im as happy as a little school girl :)
2007-09-16 04:27:37 · answer #2 · answered by Vegas Mike 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell your wife for your birthday that you want her to make a special video for you. Have her dress up all sexy in some hot lingerie, get on the bed with some toys, and take the next 20-30 minutes to do things that you never thought she'd do. Watch her as she rolls around on the bed moaning, talking filthy dirty, vocalizing her deepest darkest fantasies, and looking into the camera knowing you're watching. If you're not sexually attracted to her after the first 10 minutes of the video, then I don't know what to tell you pal.
2007-09-16 04:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How bout' this: Your beautiful wife in the arms of another man, truly in love. That's exactly what you'll see if you don't get yourself in for some therapy!
2007-09-16 05:00:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you getting bored? Maybe you guys should go on a vacation. Spice things up. Have her wear something that you like...be creative but don't get a wondering eye.
2007-09-16 04:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your looking for a reason to cheat. keep your eyes on your wife and stay commited to your vows. stop looking at other woman and giving yourself eye candy and maybe you will refocus on the one your suppose to love.
2007-09-16 04:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
remember why you married her
remember the early days in your relationship
shes Not your sister or mom, she's your partner
fix this! or you will lose her
2007-09-16 04:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lol. No husband likes his own wife! They want to see other's wives and daughters.. lol
2007-09-16 04:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋