For some time now I've been this way with members of my extended family, etc and I think it gets me more respect. It's almost as if showing feelings or "niceness" is perceived as weakness. What do you think?
2007-09-16 03:53:56 · 4 answers · asked by Margaret S 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You know your family best so you'll have to be the judge of whether this is the way to go with them.
A lot of people who are "too nice" get taken advantage of by other family members who don't have a problem being a parasite and living off the kindness of others.
At the same time, the price you pay for this aloofness is that you will unlikely form close bonds or friendships with these people, which may or not be what you're striving for.
2007-09-16 03:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally disagree. Respect doesn't come from people thinking you're cool or reserved. Respect comes from people seeing that you're a person worthy of looking up to or emulating.
The people I respect are just as likely to be lively, funny and warm as they are any other way.
Your personality or the act you put on isn't what gets you respect. Your words and deeds are.
2007-09-16 10:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. People who act overly-nice aren't that interesting, and can be walked all over. Be cool, only speak when you've got something really important to say - people will listen to you and respect you a lot more. in my humble opinion.
2007-09-16 10:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by the_chosen_one 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no
2007-09-16 11:00:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋