my bf is married and he says he wont get divorced because he will be poor .?

Question

with the divorce he would give almost all his money to his wife and kids....ls he just playing with me?

Answer 1

Yes!!!!!
He will never leave his wife & kids, You are being used.
Aquire some Self respect & find a "REAL MAN" who is not married or attached. And by the way, he is not your bf he is "her husband".

Answer 2

If he was that worried about about being poor he would not be cheating on his wife. Its only a matter of time that his wife will eventually discover her husbands philandering ways and take him to the cleaners anyway! In the mean time he uses you on the side and plays with your emotions and this is as good as its going to get with him. Whenever he is caught he will probably stop seeing you and he will work out his problems in marriage counseling with his wife? If he doesn't love you enough to leave her for you now he won't leave her for you then. He is disrespecting both you and his wife and having his cake and eating it to. As long as you keep seeing him this way you only make it tollerable for him to remain married to his wife. This man is making up excuses and while doing so has the best of both worlds and cutting you and his wife short to be in a real relationship with others that would respect you. He is the only one happy here sitting on his throne with two women needing him and wanting him and things going his way! He holds all the power keeping two women connected to him and stuck and he doesn't seem to have a problem with it. It says a lot about his character that he only stays with his wife and kids because he doesn't want to be poor. How sad is that for his family and how sad is that for you to accept being the one always looking in the window at his life and being a shadow looking over his shoulder? I would find the strength and courage to disconnect from this man because you deserve being more than just second in his life.

Answer 3

well everyone has to start out somewhere. he might be poor today but you never know what tomorrow brings. if you love him than have faith that everything will be alright. money can only buy so much happiness. love can bring you never ending happiness. my grand parents (who raised me and are pretty much my parents) got married at the age of 18 and 24. my grand mother was 18, my grand father was 24. they already had a baby together and my grand mother did not work, my grand father did but made very little. they lived at my grand fathers parents house for a little bit until they got their first place. they didnt have a nice fancy big house or even apartment. they had a one room place with less than 17 feet of space. also my grand mother had givin birth to their second child and was also pregnant again. so 4 people living in less than 17 feet of space. they couldnt afford their bills and lost their electricity for 2 months. then they got evicted and lost everything they owned. at this time my grand mother had 2 toddlers, a baby, and pregnant again, not even 25 years old! they had to completely start over. young, poor, 3 babies and absolutely nothing except the clothes on their back. it has been 34 years and they are still together and in love. they are not rich, but have come a long way! making close to $100,000 a year and own their home and completely paid off their cars. everyone doubted them. but they proved everyone wrong! if you love him, than be with him. it doesnt matter how much money he makes, and it doesnt matter what anyone says about it. it is your decision, make the one that you feel is best! good luck!

Answer 4

First of all if he is married he can't be your boy-
friend as he is already a married man,
Second of all if he did not love his wife to go with
you then his love for you will not be there either.
So now you need to step in and make a decision,
do you want someone else's man shared with you
or do you want a real man that is only for you, and
if you do not make the right decision you will find
out that you will never be happy with a man.

Answer 5

Why in the world would you involve yourself with a married man! Do you hate yourself that much that you can't find a single guy?
He won't leave for you! Why should he leave his wife for a woman who helps a married man cheat. He thinks your not worthy, just a piece of a??.
You need to get going and find someone who can love you and want to commit to only you.

Answer 6

he is right he will be poor and he is wasting your time he will never marry u, or be able to have a life with u. he is using u for what he can get off u and u are allowing it. he has a wife and kids aren't u feeling some guilt here? he is cheating on her deceiving her, why would u want to waste your time with him and count on him for any kind of life. i would get out of this, it will only bring u heartache and hurt, and theres nothing in it for u, no hope no nothing but a stolen few hours of lovemaking, to gratify his needs at your expense.

Answer 7

You were played when you laid up willingly with a married man. But I bet your silly azz is willing to "help" make sure he is NOT poor if he divorce her and come to you. It'll never happen, silly rabbit!

Answer 8

he wont divorce her because he wants to stay with her not you.your his sidekick,his piece when she's not in the mood.you need to get out of this and let him go back to his wife and leave them alone.

Answer 9

if your bf is married to someone else, he shouldn't be your bf. he should be his wife's husband, and that's all. so stop being a selfish pig and let him work on the obvious issues he's having with his wife and kids. if he's smart, he's giving you an excuse to stop seeing you. leave him alone

Answer 10

Sounds like it. If he's a real man, he's paying the child support he SHOULD be paying. If not, run away. He's not responsible and this should be a huge red flag.