I'm not sure if I'm one of the few women out there but I never want to marry or have kids. I've been in a relationship with the same man for seven years. (I'm 27,he's 36) I love him to death. We're been living together for four years, have great careers and are happy together. However I made up my mind a long time ago that I never wanted to do the whole marriage thing and he feels the same way. I'm tired of women telling me that I'm going to miss out by not having children or that I'm young and I will change my mind. My family/friends are always asking me when I'm getting married and I'm just sick of it. I think happiness differs for everyone and right now I'm pretty happy with my life/relationship. Are there other people out there like me? haha What do you guys think??
2007-09-16 03:42:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are lucky if you can be happy without those things. People surround themselves with a false feeling of security - marriage (yeah, so that we stay together forever... not always works), children (so that I am not alone when I am old and dint look at my life as pointless - also, children are not always a blessing and some people think that they should never have had children, even though they wont admit it as it is meant to be a sin or whatever).
I think there is nothing wrong with you, you just don't need all this bullshit to be happy, as you are happy with yourself and your relationship and with your life. I am very happy to know that there are people like that, who are not influenced by our stupid celebrity-cult marriage-children-money society. There is so much more to life.
2007-09-16 03:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is nothing wrong with not wanting to get married or have children. Your partner feels the same so that is great. It's only when one of you wants marriage and children that it would be difficult. Marriage is something that you can have without the piece of paper binding you. Children can bring you so much joy but also so much pain as well. Sometimes i have looked back and if i could do things over, i probably wouldn't have children as young as i did or have them at all. It's the same as a person without children wishing that they had. There is no right or wrong way to conduct your life. There is so much more to life than marriage and children. You have your committed partner by your side and a lovely life by the sounds of it. Why spoil it!!
2007-09-16 04:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life. If those things never meant anything to you, then Don't question your convictions now because somebody else thinks you are going to miss out. Do what feels right for you.
Personally speaking, I never thought I was the marriage type or even the motherly type. But I did both of those things. In retrospect, I could have probably done without the marriage thing, but I surprised myself how much my children meant to me. They gave me a whole new perspective and I could never imagine my life without them.
I have friends that have never had kids and they seem happy too.
2007-09-16 04:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever makes you feel happy, because you have to live with yourself everyday. Don't get married because family and friends want you to, don't have kids because they want you to. If you and your boyfriend are happy the way things are then I don't see nothing wrong with it, you not hurting anyone, so live your life like you want. Don't want to bring kids into this world if you really don't want them, and you don't want to get married if its going to end up in a divorce one day. As far as your feelings will change, I can't say it will or it won't because I am not you, everybody is different and have different views. I said I wanted to get married and have kids, I did that, and wished I never had got married now we are heading for a divorce. Now my kids I love them and wouldn't replace them.
2007-09-16 03:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm divorced, but I know I will never get married again.
And kids? I've never had the desire to have any. And no, I don't feel I'm missing out on anything.
A lot of people have kids because they feel obligated by society's standards or pressure from family.
That would be an interesting thread though, to find out how many did have kids and then regretted it.
2007-09-16 04:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want kids either, marriage I can do with or without it's not such a big deal to me. In my opinion what does a commitment got to do with a piece of paper and if the person you are with is on the same page as you are, in the same book then I think it's cool with or without a contract.
2007-09-16 04:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be true to who you are and if thats how you feel it's fine. Everyones happiness is based on other things so follow your heart and not others. I had 6 kids, my sis and bro had none. my sis is an animal nut instead and I don't care for animals . If everyone was the same life would be boring.
2007-09-16 03:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an individual and if you don't want marriage and kids, that's just fine.
The problem comes in when people who don't want these things, feel pressured to do them. Then everyone is miserable.
Good for you to know what you want. Stick to it. If you are happy, what else could you want?
2007-09-16 03:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that you see that about yourself and refuse to bow to pressure.
I think there's plenty of women out there who feel as you do, but they end up marrying & having kids ANYWAY......and I believe that's why so many babies are abused!
When they tell you that you'll miss out, tell them "you're just jealous of my freedom!" and change the subject.
2007-09-16 03:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have to be true to yourself on what u want out of life, and alot of people don't want to marry or have children, the choice is yours. we all want different things from life there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-09-16 03:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋