Me and my boyfriend argue about the most stupid things ever, maybe its me. But what can I do to stop it?

Answer 1

Just agree with him, or when he gives you a line to argue back on, just ignore him, and say sorry. If this works then good if it doesn't then I dont think its meant to be. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Sometimes bickering is healthy, it spices up a relationship and clears the air I think.
Depends if it's warm or cold. Cold bickering where spite is involved isn't healthy, I doubt thats worth trying to fix to be honest.
But warm bickering where you kiss and cuddle and agree to disagree afterwards is healthy.
It also depends what you're arguing about and the way the argument goes. I once dated a guy who disagreed with everything I said just for the sake of it, in the end it felt as though he was deliberately trying to make me feel small.
If I said, "I like this song," or something, he would immediately brand it rubbish, or if I expressed an opinion on something he would tell me I was wrong and imply I was a blithering idiot. That wore my self esteem down.
If you're constantly trying to put him down by disagreeing it's time to let go, or recognise when you're doing it and try to break the habit.
Perhaps you're simply not compatible.
Do you just enjoy rowing? Some people do, I know I do. I can start a row as a an outlet for frustration over something unrelated. You can counsel yourself with that, just try to recognise the signs that an outburst is forthcoming and distract yourself from it. Go for a walk, make a cup of tea, do needlepoint- whatever works for you.

Answer 3

It always starts with controlling behavior, then gradually gets worse. Once he starts hitting you, it's taken a turn for the worse. Honestly, it takes a lot of time and a lot of effort to break out of the cycle of being an abuser. Also, it's really not something he can work on while he's in a relationship with someone. It might be great when he's not being a jerk, but you have to look at the whole picture. I know it's extremely hard. If you really love him, separate. Give it some time. Let him work on his issues, and you work on yours. Yes, you have issues too. Then arrange to get together in the future and see how you've both progressed. But you can't be in close contact before then. Focus on yourself right now.

Answer 4

Arguing for some is what makes a relationship. If it is something petty take the sting out of the argument, it takes two to argue but only one gesture to end it Think about the things which set off these minor disputes and see if you can spot the signs before they erupt. Good relationships don't just happen they need to be worked at.

Answer 5

You need to be a bit more sensitive to how each other feels. Me and my partner used to argue a lot over stupid stuff too, but our main problem was just snapping at each other when we were in bad moods. You know when you just wake up in a bad mood and get really short with everyone? We still snap at each other, but now we apologise straight after, explain we are just in a bad mood and that it wasn't their fault.
Think about each other's feelings. Even if you don't mean it to, its easy for something you say to be misunderstood and to offend your boyfriend. Swallow your pride and apologise when you upset each other.

Answer 6

Get a different boy friend. Next time get aquainted with him before you dive into a relationship. If you spend much time in argueing about stupid things then you probably didnt get to know him first.

Answer 7

Is it the good kind of arguing or the bad kind? If it's the bad kind then you probably need to find a new boyfriend.

Answer 8

Every time you start to get that arguing feeling. Stop, take off your clothes and spank each other. I have no idea how that would help, just sounded like fun.

Answer 9

if you think it is you may be u need to think about why you are arguing a lot u need to examin yourself or are you both not communicating so you are bottling all your feelings up and then when u cant bottle it up no more u are just takin things out on him have a think about it good luck hope u sort things out :)

Answer 10

If this is upsetting to you, then he is not right person. If you have arguments which are resolved and you happy with eachother afterwards - then its normal part of relationship.
However if it makes you feel unhappy, find another boyfriend.