I had this friend that told after we had an argument that i was a bad friend. How do you work out if this is true??
2007-09-16 03:19:55 · 15 answers · asked by WelshGirl89 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-09-16 03:24:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look at what the argument was about. Did you do or say something that was disrespectful to your friend or to the relationship? If so, you made a mistake. The best way to work through it is to acknowledge your mistake and apologize. If your friend is a true friend she will forgive you. Just be sure not to repeat the same mistake in the future.
If you can't think of anything that you did, ask your friend to explain what makes you a "bad" friend. There may be a miscommunication that needs to be cleared up. The best way to fix a relationship issue is with open and honest direct communication.
2007-09-16 10:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if u were a bad friend u wouldn't be worried about her and wouldn't care what she does, and u wouldnt be posting on here about it. as long as u are there when she needs you and can talk to her and dont keep secrets from each other and are generally loyal u are a good friend, and remember it works both ways it might just be a heat of the moment thing to try and hurt you but a good friend wouldn't say things like that
2007-09-16 10:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by white_funny_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
could she just have been annoyed?
if not here are some of the signs:
1) you interupt people alot, or all you talk about is how you are feeling.
2) if she wants to go somewhere but u dont, you wont compromise, you and her are definately not going..
Lots of stuf, also ask ur self some Qs
1) would you risk ur life fur true friends/family
2) would you giv him/her the last cookie?
3) would u trust her/him with everything?? secrets..ur life..??
Answer ye to most of them and she was just annoyed, answer no to 1 or more, and you may have a few issues..
But no1 is perfect!!
Good luck..x
2007-09-16 11:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Darlin'x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps it was just said in temper. Have you other friends? I suppose a good friend is there for others through good and bad. Don't let a one off statement upset you too much. Different people expect different things from others and maybe this "friend" was not right for you.
2007-09-20 03:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
often people accuse others of things they are doing or have done themselves. You just have to think to yourself have I been as supportive as she has been to me over the years? Do I use this relationship to get my own way? Just think about what's happened over the years you may even find that it is she who is the bad friend.
I have had so called friends who have used me before but I wised up, good luck with your quest I hope you get an answer.
2007-09-17 09:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you havent reallly explained waht the argument was about, adn she should of given you the reason of why your a bad freind, maybe she just said it because she was angry, or you said/acted a way she doesnt like and it maybe offended her, or you wernt there for her when she mostly needed you. Ask her what you've done wrong, and if you think that its a stupid reason, then shes the bad freind for makign you think badly of yourself, for no reason, CONFUSION
2007-09-16 10:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look back at how many times you think you've been a good friend to her, and how many times you have honestly been a bad friend. When one outweighs he other after only a few minutes thinking, then you'll have your answer.
Best of luck.
2007-09-16 11:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, think what you did that was considered so wrong...what were you guys argueing about? did you do somthing wrong...you could pretty much know ifyou are a good or bad friend, by words that have been said or actions that have been took...it is not rockett science, you know if you are a good friend if you are loyal, up front, and you dont talk about ur friend begind her back...
2007-09-16 10:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Afro_Diggy_Act 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did your friend want something from you which you couldn't give?
just because we are friends, doesn't mean we have to go out of our way 100% of the time to do things for or with them.
you didn't say what happened, but i do know others sometimes have expectations of us which can be unreasonable.
take care of YOU.
2007-09-16 10:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS treat others like YOU WANT to be treated, and make it CLEAR as to how you want to be treated. If you have done that, and are living by your own rules, everything should be clear to you.
Your FRIEND is NOT being a good friend herself, because SHE most likely is not treating YOU like SHE wants to be treated!! She needs to explain what she means!
2007-09-16 10:30:45 · answer #11 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋