i had a live-in partner he was handsome tall and alot of girls admire him, but he never cheated.i handle all our expenses couse i earn more than he does.he was nice but the problem was he's alcoholic and if he's drunk he hit me for no reason.i desided to leave him cause the last time he hit me he was trying to kill the child from my womb.my mom told me to start my life all over and now i have a new job and trying to move on, but still he is always on my mind and i'm thinkin' about my coming baby, he/she will grow up without a father.
i dont know what t do?i cant move on..
2007-09-16 02:19:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen to your Mom!!!
You are remembering the good times, try remembering he tried to kill you and your child with him. That's hate!!!
Wake up, girlfriend! Do not be a victim or allow your unborn child to be a victim. He used and abused you, moving on should be easy when remembering that. You paid all the expenses and I can't even envision handsome and drunk alcoholic on the same person. That's an oxymoron. He didn't have the decency to commit to you, live-in partner, hmph. This is as clear as mud, run.
There are plenty of male father figures your child will be exposed to. Just do not let this alcoholic around your child trying to remembering the good old days and he ends up abusing the child. You will feel like crap!!!
2007-09-16 02:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be strong because you have to be. Your baby needs you. There is probably not a day that goes by that you will not think of the father. But the good thing is that as you go about your life and focus on the things that need your attention now, his importance in your life will fade. It is so much better for everyone involved to let him go, than before he hurts you or your child.
I was 17, unmarried and pregnant, and my son's father chose to leave the situation. I had no job, had not even finished high school. I made it with the help of family and friends. You can do it. Believe in yourself.
2007-09-16 09:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to sentence your child to a life of misery, assuming your handsome live-in doesn't kill him/her first? Girl, what the hell is wrong with you! You are putting your personal pride before the life of your child? If you think that having a good looking partner is more important than the life of your own baby, you should arrange for the adoption of your child right now. Love is not a feeling, it's what you do for those who are unable to do it for themselves!
2007-09-16 09:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's not nice if he hits you and is a alcoholic. Get away from him as fast as you can. If you can't do it for yourself do it for the baby. He tryed to kill your baby. It's better for you to be alive and the baby not have him as a father. Think long and hard. Mother knows best.
2007-09-16 09:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband of 13yrs recently left me and my 3 kids and I understand how painful that can be but you need to realize the child you are bringing in the world deserves the best and that would be for you to be strong and start loving yourself and start over
2007-09-16 09:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by danaispeace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon.. you HAVE TO move on... the relationship you were in was unhealthy and codependent...
sometimes our safe place is a dysfunctional place.... the guy isn't even good for HIMSELF, how can he be good for you or a baby?
time does heal all wounds... and you really need to give yourself time. focus on YOU the baby and your new job...
my older son grew up without a father, and today he is a successful, and good parent... it's possible!
take care of you.. that man isnt good for you.. or the child...
2007-09-16 10:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In due time you'll meet someone who will love you and your baby to bits there is still good men out there and dont ever forget that
2007-09-16 10:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋