Hubby has a dear friend who he grew up with. That guy is married, has a 9 and 3 year old. His wife, is a nice woman but always "self invites" herself over to my place with her kids. Yesterday, so she did when I had told her that I would touch base with her first. I had "errants" to run all morning with my own kids and was supposed to "host" all of them in the evening. I was tired and angry but "how do you say to a woman like that": I like to be called in advance before you just show up at my door!!!
2007-09-16 01:28:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Yes mememe, english is my second language.
2007-09-16 01:37:09 · update #1
I would talk it over with my spouse and say "I am very frustrated about this" and explain why. Maybe he can help you arrive at a diplomatic way of handling this conflict.
I think the input of him especially since it's a good friend of his would be of great help.
I think you are smart and reasonable enough to come up with a good way of handling this, but it will undoubtedly cause a bit of resentment any way you handle it. You resent it now though, and it is bothering you, so talk it over and work it out.
2007-09-16 01:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just had a great time going over to a friend's house with my 13 and her 11 yr. old. We spoke about 4 times before we actually went to make sure that it was ok and the timing was right. We had an incredible time! Your friend has overstayed her welcome and needs to take a break with you.Say "I'm not feeling well." When she comes over and shut the door. Stand your ground at the entryway and don't let her in. I actually had a "friend" push her way into my house when I was giving her that hint. I pushed her out and slammed the door. Some ingrates have to be told by the sound of a slamming door that you have a life too, you worked hard to get YOUR house and that they need to quit treating it as THEIR house. When she is at yours, face it, she is getting entertainment, a break from boredom at hers, a break from cleaning hers, they are using your toys and messing up your house and taking up your time selfishly. Draw some lines that you need to quit letting people cross and stand behind them.
2007-09-16 01:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by shallytally 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a little sneaky, but next time she comes over, tell her she'll have to excuse you because you have plans with the kids. Then pile them into the car and leave. Or just tell her you were about to take a nap and will have to make it another time.
Send her packing once or twice and it might get the message across.
Really, people should discuss issues like this openly when starting a friendship.
2007-09-16 01:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Fancy That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say...it was so nice of you to come over but i have to get some things done...perhaps you can call me tomorrow and we can set a time to get together...
as it has already happened i would make sure to call her if she doesn't call you first and say...gosh i was so tired the other night when you came over...we probably need a code when it is okay to drop by so i am not so out of it...something to that effect...if she doesn't get the hint...then i would tell her the next time she comes by without calling you are unable to entertain as you have other plans...and don't let her in the door...it isn't an easy situation but you do need to get control before it is even more out of control than it is...some people don't know how to be polite...
2007-09-16 04:24:28 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 09:01:48 · answer #5 · answered by gjokaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those drop in guests can be annoying. When it happens to me and I have some place I have to go, I continue getting ready, and hope they take the hint and leave.
2007-09-16 01:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by barbwire 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to call first. If that doesn't work, ignore her when she knocks.
2007-09-16 01:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by collynn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋