I am like really scared of getting hurt, I have been hurt a lot so I think I have a fear of it to the point where I don't let people in, I don't talk much @ school, I only depend on myself for support, I don't tell people my feelings or emotions, I keep everything inside, I don't trust people ever, even my friends who I have known for like 5 years now, they have always been good friends but I don't trust them and feel like they will turn on me even though they don't show any signs of disloyalty and never have. Do I sound like a a guarded person? I often have like a shell around me and feel like I have a wall up and hold back sometimes. How do I let it go?
Thanks so much 4 your help =)
2007-09-15 23:26:49 · 6 answers · asked by Loves 2 Sing. 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, but it is natural to be guarded if you have been
let down before by some one you trusted. Think back,
in your childhood was there a time when something
that meant a lot to, but was trivial to the adults around
you, happened? People aren't 100% the way you
would like them to be ever. So start with 1 or 2 people,
make friends with them, and try to break down the
wall that you have built around yourself, one brick at a time.
You are ahead of the game by feeling secure with your-
self. So use that security to stand up for yourself instead
of following someone you might meet with bad ideals,
so that you can find friends more like you.
2007-09-15 23:50:26 · answer #1 · answered by V B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never worried about getting hurt.
At home I was loved, and that was
all I needed when I was school age.
In school I built up a " I don't care attitude ",
so people didn't fraze me.
I seldom spoke about myself.
I'm like that today.
I went to school for the education,
and not for the social aspect.
I had a few friends, but never invited
many of them to my home.
Now being older I realized that would
have made more of my good School memories.
You are aware, that's a big plus.
I don't think the wall ever comes
completely down.
But I am alot more verbal, and outgoing
then I was in my youth.
We sometimes change as we get older.
I bet you will to. :-)
2007-09-16 07:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by elliebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you. When you keep getting hurt by people it becomes harder for you to trust them. It's a natural and expected reaction. It doesn't mean there aren't people out there that are nice and can be trusted. You just need to know who to trust and who not to trust. You can't treat all people the same way. I'm like you when I meet new people.
2007-09-16 06:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mr_realist 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your fine to me. Why are you feeling like there's something wrong with that. Just to confirm..... THere is nothing wrong with that. No Guarded would include being confrontational, mean, defensive and not having friends.
2007-09-16 07:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are guarded. Eventually you have to have faith in someone to experience another's love, and know full well that you may be hurt again, but do it anyways.
2007-09-16 06:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by grouch2111 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you´re fine too, just don´t forget to stick out for people in trouble.
2007-09-16 11:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by the good guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋