do u kno how to say nice things to people (PLEASE see details)?

Question

a friend of mine is sick an hes scared hes gonna have to go to the hospital for serious problems an his bestest best friend who he talks to everyday is away so he cant talk to her an get comfort from her. so i was wondering if u could say a prayer that he doesnt have to go to the hospital or just say something nice to make him feel comforted an calmed, that would be so nice of u...an if u cant say something nice just type "2 points" an be on ur way dont say anything mean please. thank u *smiles*

Answer 1

God bless your friend! ♥

Answer 2

Well. Take his mind of the situation tell him some jokes laughter is the best medicine. I can't really say anything because I dont know what sort of situation your friend is in. He shouldnt be scared of going to the hospital, if he goes there they can help him make him better, but if that doesnt fit the situation,then at least he has you and you seem to be a good friend. Maybe you could try playing some video games to pass the times of go out and eat a healthy meal or even see a movie. All this will take his mind of whatever is bothering him. Hope my advice helps. Best of Luck to your friend and yourself

Answer 3

I will say a prayer for him this very night, that God will ease his fright and restore his health so that he may not need to go to a hospital. If he has faith and asks God to watch over him, all will work out. Keep a positive attitude, if a hospital becomes necessary, there r many miraculous cures performed there daily. God bless.

Answer 4

Hey,
I've been in the hospital PLENTY! The food's not the greatest but there's TV, cute nurses, good drugs (LEGAL I might add!) and 24 hour monitoring of your situation. Relax, nothing you can do but try to be a good patione (HINT = nurses are a lot more liberal with making your life better if you treat them nice. Candy nearly always works. So does roses

Answer 5

I will say prayers for your friend. May God bless him, his friends and family.

Now here are some suggestions for you, being the wonderful friend that you are to him...

Give the Gift of Presence:
Perhaps the greatest gift you can give your seriously ill friend is the gift of your presence. Particularly if you live nearby, you have the opportunity to demonstrate your support by being there, literally, when your friend needs you most. Visit your friend at the hospital (if he has to go) or at home-not just once, but throughout the course of the illness. Rent a movie and bring popcorn. Play cards or Monopoly. Your simple presence will say to your friend, "I am willing to walk this difficult road with you and face with you whatever comes."

Do respect your friend's need for alone time, though, and realize that his treatment may zap his energy. He may not be up for company all the time.

Be a Good Listener:
Your friend may want to openly discuss his illness, or he may avoid discussing it. The key is to follow your friend's lead. Keep in mind that your friend will experience this illness in his own unique way.

Allow your friend to talk about his illness at his own pace. And while you can be a "safe harbor" for your friend to explain his thoughts and feelings, don't force the situation if your ill friend resists.

If you can listen well, you can help your friend cope during this difficult time. Your physical presence and desire to listen without judging are critical helping tools. Don't worry so much about what you will say. Just concentrate on listening to the words your friend is sharing with you.

Learn About Your Friend's Illness:
"People can cope with what they know, but they cannot cope with what they don't know," I often say. You will be better equipped to help your friend if you take it upon yourself to learn about his illness. Visit your local library and consult the medical reference books or do research from reliable sources online. Request information from educational associations, such as the National Cancer Institute or the American Heart Association. With your friend's consent, you might also talk to his physician. If you educate yourself about the illness and its treatments, you will be a more understanding listener when he wants to talk. While you shouldn't inappropriately intervene in his medical care, you might also be a more effective advocate.

Be Compassionate:
Give your friend permission to express his feelings about the illness without fear of criticism. Learn from your friend; don't instruct or set expectations about how he or she should respond. Think of yourself as someone who "walks with" not "behind" or "in front of" the person who is seriously ill.

Never say, "I know just how you feel." You don't. Comments like, "This is God's will," "Just be happy you are doing as well as you are" or "It could be worse" are not constructive. Instead, they hurt and make your friend's experience with serious illness more difficult.

Offer Practical Help
Your sick friend will probably need help with the activities of daily living. Preparing food, washing clothes, cleaning the house or driving your friend to and from the hospital for treatment are just a few of the practical ways of showing you care.

A Final Word:
Your friend needs you now more than ever. At a time when words are inadequate, offer your presence whenever you can. I use three phrases to remind myself of my role as a caring, compassionate friend:
Mouth closed. Ears open. Presence available.

God bless. I wish you both well!

Answer 6

Just be positive! You don't need to talk about the situation, actually you need to talk about something completely far from it. Get his mind off of it and make him laugh!! No need to be super nice! He needs a break from serious right now!

Answer 7

I hope that your friend is doing better soon. Stay calm and try not to worry.

Answer 8

I just said a prayer.

Answer 9

of course nessa *looks worried* i hope he'll be alright, ill say prayers for hem ♥

Answer 10

Of course you can. I would take some chocolate too... Lindt brand will make his "feel-bad" feel better.

Answer 11

You don't need to say it... just be there... if it's were me, a friend of somebody being there is more than enough..