Even when I absolutely need to go, if I have to pee in public, its like my penis shuts off.. either my pee trickles down very very slowly.. or i just cant pee at all. The same goes for when im at a friends house. If i go to use the restroom and they are outside the door.. it makes it very difficult to pee..I get self conscious about how my peeing "sounds." Is this normal? And if its not, how can i fix it?
2007-09-15 21:09:50 · 20 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Physically, its normal. Its the mental part that making it hard for you to pee in public places.. I used to have this problem when I was younger and I also had to find unoccupied stalls even if I really had to go. The thing is there's really nothing to be conscious about when peeing in public places. That's what I did, its like I don't care about the people around me. Its pretty hard to relax if you keep on thinking about the others, so I suggest that be carefree when going into public comfort rooms.
2007-09-15 21:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ithica 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from shy bladder, otherwise known as bashful bladder, stage fright, pee shy. The medical and psychological term is paruresis. You have moderate paruresis. As of this time, there is no cure. But there is help to elminate the symptoms. It is mainly a male disorder but it also affects many women. You are tense, when you get to the men's room ready to burst your bladder muscles can't relax and you just can't go. It is awful. I have been there. But with cognitive psychotherapy and practice with a pee buddy, changes do take place. Maybe you still won't be able to go at a urinal in a crowded men's room but a stall is there and you will be able to go there even if you have to sit down and keep from being heard as you pee. 7 % of all people are pee shy. You have plenty of company. You are not alone.
First: get the book by Steven Soifer, Ph. D., Shy Bladder Syndrome, Oakland, CA: Harbinger Publications, Inc., 2001. It is available at amazon.com or at www.paruresis.org.
Second: Log on to www.paruresis.org and get on to their forum. Read some of the stories like your own and as well as from those who have been helped. We are there to help you with treatment.
2007-09-16 21:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by teiddarhpsyth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, that's normal man. You've just become so self-conscious that's it's inihibiting your normal body functions. Try overcoming this situation in stages......like, use a stall in a public restroom, but don't close the door.....it may sound silly..but, i know what it's like to have a shy bladder. You just need to take small steps at a time. I used to have a shy bladder...kinda weird....but, as long as the guys around me were quiet.....i could pee in the urinal...even in the trough kind...but, it the guy next to me was loud (like drunk and loud)..there was NO WAY i could relax enough to pee. Now, it doesn't bother me at all....but, it took small steps to get there.
2007-09-16 19:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by judson783 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm im not sure how you can fix that. i'm a girl and i always pee out in public, its almost like a sport for me. i guess when im going i just try not to worry about other ppl but most the time when i go in public there arent ppl around.
and as for when ur at a friends house it u got really close to the toilet and peed at an angle towards the wall of the toilet then nobody would be able to hear it cuz it would just be running down the wall!!
well good luck buddy!
2007-09-20 22:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!
I have the same problem as you do, and I just still can't fix it!
But actually I think you can just relax the whole body and let it go... However, I just could't do it.
It's really hard to pee in public washroom when you get self conscious about how you pee or even "sound"...
2007-09-15 22:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alex 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.. I'm not sure what that's about but I am the same. I'm not self conscious about my body but just find it difficult to urinate.. it's really difficult at the football or theatre with men lined up and three deep at the urinals. I hate it.. it's a real problem on those occasions!
Normally I try to get a stall and try to think of something else.. relax. It's the only way.
2007-09-15 21:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went threw that stage but one day i really had to go and i was like fudge it and i went since then i got no probs, i just dont care, your pee sounds like the next guys pee, and many people have the same issue so think of that, everyone just has a shy bladder, show them its nothing to be scared of ;) Good Luck
2007-09-21 08:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this ever happens to me I just relax my body, take a deep breath, and think of a waterfall and that usually does the trick for me.Just remember every dude has the same thing, so don't be shy. And be proud of the "sound" you make when your taking a whiz, it's no big deal.
2007-09-17 09:11:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem but what helps (this may sound a little odd, if you have ever seen the Rundown then you should know it). But say to yourself (not out loud because you will get very weird looks) 1,2,3, go. It's really weird I know but for some reason it works most of the time.
2007-09-16 12:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by Ghost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a book called "Bashful Bladder Syndrome" about this. There's also a website and an organization with regional meetings and local support groups.
One way to find progress is through graduated exposure. You can read about it in one of the resources I mention. Please Join International Paruresis Association and hear from people who take your "disability" seriously. I'm one, brother, I understand the piss-paralysis that happens and embarrasses. E-mail me for more info, esp. if you're near Chicago.
2007-09-15 22:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋