My son is normally very good, but lately has been very bad! He gets quite a bit of attention, so I don't think it's that? But lately he has started to destroy things & not listen to me! He's even a little bit mean to his sister & doesn't play with her anymore? They used to play together every day. He has broken a bedroom door, the roof of a barbie house, doors off a solid wood end table, cuts his clothes & other toys.....And he woke up twice in the night last week crying. He woun't tell me what's wrong with him. I'm frustrated, angry at him a lot, concerned & sad that there must be something wrong. He's made lots of new friends, learned lots of new things (ride bike, flag football, swimming, reading, writting) & I tell him a lot how proud of him I am. What can I do?
2007-09-15 20:23:10 · 22 answers · asked by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I also spend quite a bit of time with him-swimming, bike ridding, go to the park, school work, watch movies.....
2007-09-15 20:24:17 · update #1
Yes, all of these things are new within the past month. Also, he just started going to public school last week for an hour a day-I homeschool the rest. (He has a condition that I prefer to keep him home for) So he spends most of his day w/ me. His dad has been out of town a bit. Maybe that's it?
2007-09-15 20:41:14 · update #2
No, I NEVER talk down to my son like that & rarely holler at him. I tell him I will not put up with him breaking things & that he needs to change his attitude towards me. I do so much for him & am really very "nice" to him! I'm more of a push-over than a scolder! And he has NEVER acted like this before....he's usually quiet & shy & very well behaved. No harm asking though...
2007-09-15 20:47:28 · update #3
Hi there, it does not sound like depression. One would be very sad, withdrawn and have little interest in most of the things that one used to enjoy. Your son appeared to be acting out instead. Something seemed to be troubling him. You may want to find out from others, such as teachers, his other schoolmates, etc. about how he behaved in other settings and also to find out if there were anything that happened to him in school etc. It would be important to find out the root causes of his frustration. It may also be advisable to arrange for a visit to the counsellor to provide a professional assessment of the situation.
Do take care of yourself too and relax ;)
2007-09-15 20:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by L Ju 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all - cut the sodas and artificial stuff out of his diet.
Did you know that artificial colors and flavorings are strongly linked to Attention Deficit Disorder?
Also, you should consider what kind of attention he gets - is it negative or positive?
Secondly - I don't know you at all but it sounds like maybe YOU might be depressed. Are the kids getting to be a handful and its bringing you down?
If that's the case - its totally normal.
But keep this in mind - kids are very sensitive to the mental state of their parents - they will act out if there are "bad vibes" around.
Lastly, I would consider EVERY possible method of taking care of his outbursts before putting the little guy on meds...
People are WAAY to pill-happy and parents have no right to drug their children until EVERY other option has been explored.
Too many doctors will easily write a prescription because they get kick-backs from the pharmaceutical companies... Don't go there unless you absolutely have to.
Personally, if it were my kid, I would pack a healthy lunch and go out to the park or to a playful museum for the day.
Maybe he just needs to excersise his body and mind.
Good Luck.
Does he have any friends yet? Maybe its time to introduce him to another neighborhood boy?
I saw that you mentioned a doll-house... maybe there are too many girls around... icky!
2007-09-15 20:43:19 · answer #2 · answered by rabble rouser 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is something bothering him and you need to find out what it is before he starts to hurt either him self or a member of the family. I would start by making a appointment with his teacher maybe something happened at school that she or he didn't think was very important but your son did. If that does not work out talk to some of his friends to see if something has changed with them. See if there is a counselor at school that he can see or ask his pediatrician to recommend someone. The sooner that you find out what's wrong the sooner that you can get him the help that he needs. But I would start at school since next to home that's where he spends most of the time. Some of this could also be a sign of abuse, so also make and appointment for a physical exam. but you do need to do something soon.
2007-09-15 20:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kathryn R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to little boys it would be better to look at what you have left out and that is where is the Father and why did you leave him out. And are you the type to talk to him like trash when your angry as in do you make him feel insignificant, unwanted or cant do anything right.
Dont just judge me if you actually want to help your son.
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If dad is either out of town alot as you said (or maybe for other single women households) when it comes to a boy and the love/bond from his father, he may be missing the one person he has a true connection with. I would try and get dad to call him alot if he has to be away, show his boy he is still interested in him and would love to be there and will be home soon enough. I would also try very carefully not to speak to him (you) as if he cant do anything right, he is a baby still after all and cant think like his bigger sister or defenitely like an adult.
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Ok seen as you say that you dont make him feel bad about himself for doing something wrong or insignificant, try to look for something that has changed either the same time as him acting up or maybe a week before. So has dad always been away alot or just recently, like someone else said, check the food you are feeding him and is there something you have recently introduced to his diet or environment.
2007-09-15 20:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like overdoing it. Is this something fairly new?
When I'm sleeping a night. a cozy blanket is comfortable, but wrap it too tightly around me and I don't like being smothered in it.
The angry part got my attention, too. Nothing wrong with angry, we all get it sometimes. But angry a LOT causes much concern. Emotions are running high. If the adults can't control THEIR emotions, it's even more unsettling for a 6 year old who doesn't even understand HIS emotions yet.
I don't buy into the depression bit, but it sure sounds like an emotional roller coaster that the kid just has no way of understanding, much less living in.
2007-09-15 20:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 00:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...
I was like that as a child... I mean... I was shy and quiet and well-mannered... Which was a good thing in the eyes of my family and teachers and other adults...
But truth be told... I had so much anger built up inside of me because of it...
I was always working to please everyone else... I didn't do things that I liked to do very often... And thing of it was... Even though I worked so hard to make everyone happy, I never really had friends growing up... I guess because I was so quiet that they didn't like me...
It's entirely possible that your son... since he's mostly homeschooled... is very lonely... at first, he could say that it was just because he was kept at home and was never given the chance to make friends... but now that he's going to school, the kids don't like that he's so reserved and stuff like that...
I know what I'm trying to say, but I don't know how to say it...
I guess it's like maybe he's frustrated that he doesn't have the friends that other kids have in school... Maybe he blames you for that because you're the one that kept him in homeschool... ?
I have no idea and I'm definitely no psychologist... I'm just saying. =-)
2007-09-16 09:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on in school. Maybe because he's there only for one hour, he doesn't fit in with the rest of the children. In any case, I suggest you have a meeting with his teacher to find out what's happening in class and how he's behaving there. This is too sudden a change to be dismissed.
2007-09-19 07:10:25 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its depression. Alot of kids go through that phase (I know I did) Find him something positive to mess with like those finger paints that ONLY go on the special paper or some paper and saftey scissors. If he doesnt progress ask his normal doctor about it and he/she might have a suggestion on what else to do or if he needs a therapist. I know the therapy place near me does anger managment therapy where they pretty much give you stuff to break to get anger out. It's quiet usefull lol
2007-09-15 20:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lolli R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out exactly when this behavior started. It sounds as if something tramatic happened to him like abuse. I would not tolerate him breaking things, but I would not worry about him not playing with his sister-- he has just figured out that he is older and a boy. I would get him to a therapist, but I would not let them put him on any meds until you find out what the problem is.
2007-09-15 21:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by sbyldy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋