Why do people hate it when I try to be positive?

Question

People ask me what it was that has made such a visible change in my life. And I start to tell them how I realized that we all make our own problems, and only we can fix them. Can't blame mommy and daddy or circumstances, can only blame ourselves and do something about it. How realizing that gave me the power to change the negatives that surrounded me and get on with happiness... but I noticed the same people asking me to coach them towards being happier also get angry and upset at me when I say that we have to stop living in the past and let things go and start allowing happiness. They want to argue with me that it IS others to blame and get very aggressive. Why?

Answer 1

Those people aren't ready for a change yet. They may think they are, but if they can't let go of the past and be open to a new way of thinking about things, nothing will happen. They get angry with you because you aren't agreeing with them - you aren't pitying them and telling that they really have gotten a raw deal - you're telling them to get over it, basically...and they just aren't ready.

Answer 2

People inherently don't like to take responsibility for their own actions. Its much easier to train yourself to believe its someone elses fault - it lets you ignore the negative ugly aspects of yourself that really cause things. No one likes to think of themselves in a negative light.

I think these people are inspired by you and may geniunely want your advice, but theres only so much you can tell a person about how to change. You can't force them to realize they can believe. They have to mull over these things on their own and come to peace with them at their own pace (which may take years longer than it took you to reach that change).

Answer 3

Sometimes, they may wonder: Why can't I do it, while you can?
So, you must really try to understand the situation, which is quite difficult sometimes. You must also know that the people seeking your help are people who are chained down by shadows of the past. Forgive them for whatever barbed words they throw at you; and analyse the situation and solve it in a tactful way.
GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

I think that it just because they feel that noone is positive all the time. It's cool to stay positive but after a while it going to irritate some people and just make them angry and think the opposite why.

Answer 5

I think it is because it means "change" by change I mean it means that for others to think positively they would have to think differently. Change is scary to most people. Many people take comfort in being miserable and thinking negatively.

Answer 6

I think some people are happy being unhappy. They just like drama and only feel comfortable if they can complain about something.

Answer 7

because its much easier and comfortable to blame somoneelse for ur problems. Whether its a family member employer god. Ur off the hook why should i ____ that jerk is gonna ruin it anyway. I got fired because they are nuts not because i ****** up. I'm fat because of genectics not laziness and overeating. See how its easier

Answer 8

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They want to argue with you because
they are right. Sometimes all your
problems are caused by you, and
sometimes they are caused by other
people.

You choose to believe that everyone
is the same in this area...the same as
you...you cause your own problems so
everyone else must cause their own
problems...a common mistake.
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Answer 9

cause it does not suit them