Have you ever experienced a TRAUMA in your life that changed your whole PERSPECTIVE?

Question

I considered myself somewhat materialistic, and a little vain, at times. But, on 12/26/06, my 9 & 10 years old daughters were burned in a house fire. When they were STRUGGLING TO SURVIVE in the hospital for a whole month, my whole attitude about life changed... I realized that they had yet to experience teenage years, makeup, college, etc.....so young to be fighting for LIFE!!
Today, I am not as obsessed as I once was with appearances!! I know what it was like to see A CHILD (two children, MY children!) just fight to SURVIVE..to live!

yes, they are doing better! the 9 yrs old sustained 3rd degree burns to both her arms; and is "adjusting" to the new changes. the 10 yrs old has lung issues and some scarring; but, overall, I am grateful that they ARE ALIVE!

Answer 1

I agree with you. I have never been materialistic because I have never really had anything. I grew up really poor and was homeless quite a few times. I lived in a rinky dink trailer for 5 years, 2 years we didn't have running water or electricity. I haven't had any traumatic events like that, but my life has been pretty messed up all my life, so I haven't really been changed... just growing up more and learning. I had a miscarriage April 3rd this year and it is so painful, I am still not over it. I knew they just threw my baby away like he was never anything. Since then I have learned to appreciate my daughter more... I think, whoa... that could've happened to her and I could've never had her. It's scary when you start to think about what "could have" gone wrong but didn't. I thank God for her and have sympathy for you. I freak out if my daughter bumps her head or gets scratched... I would lose my mind if she was in that much pain from being burned and the horror that would be going thru her mind. Thank God they got out alive!! I'm so happy they did!!!

Answer 2

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Glad your kids are okay now. ♥

Once I was doing homework in a
college computer lab, and by the
words and behavior of a young
woman, I sensed that she was
monitoring me.

There were no signs in the lab
that we were being monitored,
and I got a little incensed. Why
wouldn't they just tell students that
we were being monitored? Why
hide and sneak? I then did some-
thing I have regretted ever since.

I wanted to make sure, so I typed
into the computer that I was going
to commit suicide if she did not
tell me why she was monitoring me.

There was a huge reaction, and
counseling center employees,
psychology students and professors
began a program of audio- and video-
rape of me everywhere, and numerous
other attacks...harassment...all in secret...
they persuade everyone to go
along with their lunacy. They won't
crawl out from under their rocks so
I can stop them.

That was over 16 years ago. I left
college with two courses left to go,
didn't get the degree. They followed
me to the menial jobs I could get
without a degree, and persuaded
employers and co-workers to harass
me—I believe they are trying to force
me into therapy.

Everything in my life is destroyed...
every relationship (my son my
grandson, friends), my degrees, my
profession, my income as they
took my jobs, destroyed my credit
history, took my car, my insurances,
my health, made me homeless twice.
And that's just the tip of the
iceberg.

They caused brain damage
with a particularly nasty series of
attacks that lasted 48 hours straight,
making sure I got no sleep, and was
continually harassed.

I now know that the whole behavioral
system is for the benefit of the 'care'-
givers, the 'helpers'. It is not designed
to actually help anyone, though there
are caring people in the system. It is
designed to provide an income and
prestige for the 'helpers' at the expense
of the powerless and taxpayers.

I will never trust another human being to
do the right thing again. Not one person
has answered my questions about this
truthfully...they look away embarrassed,
change the subject, or lie. Not one person
has given me the information I need, the
proof I need, so that I can stop them.

If I was homicidal or suicidal, I would
have snapped a long time ago. They
are weak, unable to think for themselves
rather than mindlessly obey authority.
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Answer 3

With me, it wasn't a particular event, but the way I was raised with my dad thinking that money was everything and that it mas necessary to be happy and also he was mad all the time, usually about nothing. I think that has made me realize just how much money doesn't make you happy and has made me really appreciate people more who are in my life...people who are not happiest when they're miserable. I think because of my dad, I have a different view of success than a lot of people have...I don't view success in terms of career and money...I view it as you're successful if you're happy in life.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Sounds like you had a life changing experience there. I hope your girls are doing well now. It's sad to think that some of us, yes myself included, need something like this to snap us back into reality.

Answer 6

Working where I do is traumatic enough. I couldn't handle any more.