to those who answered "1 month pregnant, how can i induce miscarriage?"?

Question

look, i'm 15, i got raped, couldnt tell my parents, have no one ic an talk to, and now i think i might be pregnant. i'm very religious and was planning on being a virgin till marriage. now i cannot tell my parents and need to get rid of the baby, much as i want kids in the future and would never have considered giving up my baby.

Answer 1

Read this site:
http://www.naturalmiscarriage.org/world/free-women.htm

Answer 2

ok seriously...if you are so religious why NOT tell your parents you were raped?? They can help you!! You need support from them, no one else. It would be better for you to deliver this child and put it up for an adoption IF you are pregnant, rather than forcing your body to miscarry and abort the baby. Doing it yourself or even going to a clinic can cause harm to your body that you don't want!! You may have not heard of the morning after pill before now but if you were worried about getting pg then you should have gotten one if you had heard of it before.

ETA--I should have mentioned that what happened was NOT your fault, and going to a doctor is one of the best things you can do. Also if you are pregnant, dont hate the baby!! It is NOT the baby's fault either. There is a family out there that is wanting a child and unable to have one, and your child would be dearly loved by them.

Answer 3

Jasmine,
I am sorry that you got raped. I know you are young and probably scared to tell your parents, but trust me your parents will not blame you and they will understand. You should have reported it to the police or an adult immediately after it happened so you could have prevented pregnancy in the first place. BUt since you did not, I will not lecture you on what you "should have" done.
Instead, lets consider your options now. Don't make any further mistakes and do anything that will endanger your health or your babies health (if you are pregnant).
An abortion is something serious, and if you think it is your best option right now, consult an adult that you trust (whether its your parents or someone else).
Do NOT attempt to induce a miscarriage or abort this baby yourself. You will only harm yourself, and get yourself in a more difficult situation than you already are in.
And you also said "might be pregnant" So of course, go the drug store or to your local free clinic and get a pregnany test done.
If you were raped, it is not your fault and you can still save yourself for marriage.

take care.
good luck.

Answer 4

Don't listen to what the other people are saying, I don't have any reason to think you would be lying about being raped and nobody should be questioning that!

I think that if you can't trust your parents enough to tell them then your need to see a Doctor, and perhaps a Counselor, especially if you choose abortion as your route. Go to a clinic before it's too late.

I wouldn't want to have my rapists baby either, so if you don't think you can go through this, expecially if you think you have to do it alone, you should have an abortion, but do not do it yourself! That will indanger your life even more. In some states, the abortion clinic cannot tell your parents.... it's illegal for them to.

And...
In response to the lady above me, it's not a baby yet, it doesn't have arms and legs yet, it's not a person yet, it doesn't have a soul, it's a bunch of cells, you kill cells all the time when your itch your arm... it's the same thing! Is itching your arm murder because you kill cells? I don't think so! Get educated before you try to give someone advice.

In response to those of you who said religious people don't kill their children, pay attention to the news, and perhaps read the christian bible, it actually tells you to kill your kids for god (email me and I'll give you the verses [e-mail])... along with beating them, and even one day eating their flesh... the bible has some sick crap in it!

Answer 5

If what you say is true, you need to tell your parents and the police. You did not ask to be raped, it is not your fault. Inducing an abortion is not wise and could lead to infertility in the future. The most important thing IS to tell your parents. You need someone to help you. If you feel that your parents are unapproachable, you should contact your local planned parenthood office. They can give you advice and also help you find a way to talk to your parents. You should not feel guilty if you were raped. Even if you had consensual sex, you were "raped" because you are legally not old enough to consent.

Answer 6

Okay honey, assuming this is true.. YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE>> This is not your fault...No matter what the person that did this to you told you ... your parents, cops,etc can help protect you.. BUT YOU HAVE TO TELL THEM>>

And I understand you not wanting a baby and everything else... You are only 15.. But NOBODY will hold this against,, not God not your Parents...not anybody.. YOU NEED TO GET HELP>>>

DO you know for sure you are pregnant???? According to some of your questions you are 1 month but this one says you might be????

But No matter.. IF you were raped than this guy needs to be caught and put behind bars so he can't do this again...

Honey I know you are scared but There are soooo many help lines and clinics that you can go to for help if you don't think you can tell your parents... BUT honey eventually they will find out.. AND HONESTLY I would be hurt if my daughter didn't trust and respect me enough to think she could come to me NO MATTER WHAT>>>

AGAIN HONEY TALK TO YOUR PARENTS>> GOOD LUCK and I hope you make the right choice honey... I WILL PRAY FOR YOU ..


Edit!!!!! Check out the phone # and link!! Hope this helps..

Girls and Boys Town National Hotline
1-800-448-3000
(TTY 1-800-448-1833)

http://www.teenline.org/

Answer 7

I am very sorry for what happened to you. I dont understand why you cant tell your parents. You should go to planned parenthood on Monday. It is confidential and it is free to have a pregnancy test. Dont hurt yourself in an attempt to hurt this child inside of you. Please just find out if you are pregnant first at least.
I had a miscarriage a few years ago. It was very very difficult. I bled too much and the dr had to go in and take the rest of my baby out. I was 7 weeks pregnant. I really needed my family to be there for me.
I am now a mom. If my daughter ever told me she was raped I would only love her and be there for her. Even if she got pregnant and it was not by rape. You parents love you.. give them a chance.
I will pray for you.

Answer 8

Reguardless of being religious, you cannot abort your child yourself. Its dangerous to you, and chances are the child wont be aborted, but then born with birth defects/deformities. If you were raped, it is NOT your fault. No one (not even God or whomever you believe in) is going to think you did anything wrong. However, aborting your own child without medical help may be a different story. You need to tell your parents. Its going to be probably the hardest thing you could possibly do. But you HAVE to do it. Then you need to go to the OB/GYN and have a pregnancy test done to be sure you ARE in fact pregnant, get tested for STDs && HIV. Then you may think about seeing a counselor about what happened to you. Its alot to deal with at that age. And coming from someone who was sexually abused half her life, never told anyone or had anyone to talk to, TRUST ME, tell your parents and talk to someone. As others said in their answers...if you don't go to the DR's you could end up with an STD that could prevent you from having children in the future, create ALOT bigger health problems for you now (some can lead to death if left untreated--and it doesnt take long), and could be passed on to any child you give birth to.


Good Luck && Do the right thing. Tell your parents.

Answer 9

If you were raped it is by no means you're fault..You're parents should not be angry or mad at you..
You NEED to tell someone..Inducing an abortion can cause serious complications and if you want kids in the future than you need to do this the proper way..Tell Mom and Dad,let them know what happened and take it from there...
You dont even know if you're pregnant yet so go to the dollar store and buy a test(they do work)or visit planned parenthood..You dont have to go at it alone,..
Best of luck :)

Answer 10

First of all, if you were raped, you should have told you parents immediately.
Reason: A parent can help you through the legal aspect, and help you set up counseling. I had very strict parents, but I would not hesitate for one second to tell them I was raped. I don't care how much of a hard *** your parents can be. They will melt like butter to defend and protect their baby from harm.
Yes I did call you a baby, because you will always be the beautiful child they made. There is no reason not to tell them, even if you wern't raped.
When I was 14, I had to shadow my mother, who was a CCRN in the ICU, for careers class. There was a 13 year old girl dieing of septicemia, shock, and uterine hemorrhage, from a coat hanger abortion. I remember seeing her parents sobbing uncontrollably, because they couldn't understand why she said nothing. They kept asking the nurses, why couldn't she talk to us. I was incredibly sad to watch. Then when the parents realized or were told that she would probably never wake up, the mother screamed,' I can't even say goodbye.' I just lost it, and had to leave to cry myself.
When my mother's shift was over, we quietly walked to the car. When we reached the car, my mom grabbed me and hugged me so tight, and said, " If anything ever happens to you, please tell me. I don't want you to ever think you can't."
After our parking lot crying session, we finally left and went home. I know it's sad, but we actually bonded over the tragedy, of that poor girl and her family. I found out that night, I can trust her with anything.

Tell your parents!! Never underestimate them!! You are in trouble, and they love you.

Answer 11

You wouldn't consider giving up your baby but you would try to murder it? That makes no sense. If you were raped, there is no shame in that and your parents will see no shame in that. You need to talk to an adult who is a non biased 3rd party who can give you your options and really look into counseling.

Also, if you try to induce a miscarriage the chances for having problems to try to get pregnant later in life, when you are ready to have a baby,will be increased.