my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9 months. He is very responsible and very respectful of me and a little old fashioned. Anyway, we had a sex talk a few times and recently when we talked about he asked me when i thought i would be ready. I said well id like to wait like three more months, to make it a year. He said that was fine but honestly, he said he doesnt think we will ever do it because there are other ways to have fun and love someone besides that. I know he is extremely respectful of my body and asks me before he does anything. he wont even allow me to go over his house to simply hang out or watch a movie because he knows what that could possibly lead to. He fine with "everything else" that we do physically but that. I am ready now, but i would like to wait until 3 months so we'd be going out a year. He told me he would love more than anything to do it with me. But he wont. What should I do??
any stupid remarks and ill report you.
2007-09-15 17:28:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
okay i warned you.
2007-09-15 17:37:24 · update #1
This guy is rare. He respects you and cares for you.
Wait until he is ready.
2007-09-16 01:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a nice guy! It's great that he's so respectful. It seems like a little bit of a stretch for him to not let you come over and watch a movie because it might lead to sex... He must be really attracted to you. :D
Honestly, though, I would just wait out these next 3 months while abstaining from sex and then see what happens. He might be saying that he would rather not have sex because he's afraid that he might be pressuring you into doing something you don't want to. Maybe, on your one year anniversary, you could make it a really romantic evening with rose petals and champagne (I don't know how old you are, so maybe not.. heh) and just really let him know that you're comfortable with having sex with him. If he still doesn't want to after that, you should respect his decision to wait since he has respected yours.
Good luck!
2007-09-16 00:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so let's tackle this one thing at a time here. Am I correct in understanding that YOU told him you wanted to wait 3 more months to make it a year? You should enjoy your boyfriend. He is right, there is so much more to a relationship then sex. And if you perfect that all now, when the time does come for you guys to consumate your relationship, it will be so much more enjoyable. I would be proud that he respects you so much. Most guys I know would not do that. Honestly though, enjoy your time together. Don't mess it up over something as petty as sex. Right now what's important is how you guys feel about one another.
2007-09-16 00:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by kris 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean he does not want to have sex at all with you? or he wont right now?? cuz im assuming that he just wont right now because you said you wanted to wait..so thats gud right?? I think its great that your waiting and he is respecting that..Sex is suppose to be a special time and i think alot or people take advantage of that.
2007-09-16 00:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Holly B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stop having the conversations about it altogether. He knows where you stand and when the time happens is when the time happens.
He himself might even be feeling pressured or unsure... guys dont talk about their feelings with women. They havent for centuries and frankly, thats just the way it is.
It will happen when its meant to.
2007-09-16 00:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by Paramedic Girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
find what turns him on.....its a opening point to him. use it to ur advantage find what turns him on get him in the mood for it...feel on him touch him...he will open up....or maybe hes embarrssed about his body...but usually boys want to have sex before girls....
2007-09-16 00:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by yunggee24 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would say wait until you got the ring, and it better be a big one at that.
stay in school, keep your panties on, and call your mother!
2007-09-16 00:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by becker-lisa@sbcglobal.net 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋