my life has been very bad lately my parents are getting a divorce i broke up with my boyfriend my BFFL moved my nephew that i love so much is moving so i can only like see him 2 times a year and its just to much to handel also i have to chose which parent to live with! :'(
2007-09-15 15:39:37 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's understandable why you would want to cry in this situation, that IS a lot to handle. it's alright to cry, no one can blame you for it. sometimes it's actually good to cry. it gets rid of some stress, which would be really good for you right now. just talk to some of your friends about your feelings, talking helps a lot of the time. but don't let anyone give you a hard time right now, even your parents because honestly, you don't need that on top of everything else going on. im sorry you have to be in this tough situation, but know that things will get better, and you won't feel like crying as much.
2007-09-15 15:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by htqahts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't cry cause now I'm crying too. Your parents are breaking up for a reason, because they are now on different paths and have there own needs and wants that the other can't give, sometimes bad things happen for a reason, my life has been terrible too. I wished that my parents would divorce. What would you rather being happy in two separate houses or being sad all in the same house? You can choose both you know 3 days at one parent and 4 days at the other it's called share care. Please turn to your bible for guidance esp ECCLESIASTES, Sister everthing happens for a reason. try to read inspiring material heres a poem for you
RAINBOWS
Rainbows appear after mighty storms
When things look thier very worst.
Just when skies are darkes and grey,
Look for the rainbow first.
The rainbow is a sign of Gods promise,
that he will guide us through all our trials.
No matter what thier form
When you feel battered by lifes storms
And you are filled with doubt and dismay
Just remember Gods rainbow will come
For its only a prayer away.
Smile. Peace be with you and
God grant you the Serenity to accept the things you cannot change, Courage to change the things you can. And the wisdom to know the difference.
2007-09-15 22:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ned 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a lot at one time.
Hopefully your parents will live close to each other and you can see the one you don't live with frequently. As for which one? i would pick the one that allows you to keep the same school.
You are young and will have other boyfriends.
Sorry your nephew is moving - but life is that way sometimes.
Keep in mind - the divorce has nothing to do with you or anything you did. Don't allow them to put you in the middle and NEVER say anything bad about them.
It's a hard time for everyone. Sorry things turned out that way.
2007-09-15 22:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Collette L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and cry, my suggestion is to not try and stop, for every tear u shed is a seed of healing for whatever reason u cry, its a form of release, washing the soul clean. Right now u r dealing with circumsatances which r out of your control, it sounds as if your life is in transition, it will be up to u how u handle this transition, divorces can be hard on children and parents alike, what u want to do is find a way to enter this transition without allowing it to affect you negatively, there had to been a reason why u broke up with ur bf, and, if it will have a positive effect on you I say allow your self to go through it smoothly and gently, u r too young to stressing about things out of your control, it will not have a positive effect later on in life and can lead u to make decisions which may hurt u later, acceptance of things we have no control over is a sign of wisdom, we learn how to deal with changes, there's one thing in life that always will be constant and this is "change", choosing what parent to live with is sometimes a difficult decision to make because we want to please both of the parents, but, u must make the decision which is right for u since u r being a part of this change, as far as your nephew, now u have a different place to visit, I;m sure something good will come out of this, who knows u may meet the love of your life, keep your chin up and don't allow these changes to overwhelm u, in the end, it will all work itself out. Good Luck to you.
2007-09-15 23:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by yawhaneeh53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe, sweetie things will get better even though it seems so bad right now. As for parents, you are not choosing who you love more, you are just choosing where you will live for now. Maybe your parents can do a joint custody and share equal amount of times of you living with them. I know it's hard to deal with the breakup of your boyfriend, but when God closes one door he opens another and it's always better for you. You can always chat online with your nephew and keep close contact that way. Right now, just try to think of all the things that you have to be thankful for and try not to think of all the negative things that makes you feel bad.
2007-09-15 23:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have a lot to cry about. Go ahead and do it. Eventually you will calm down. Tell your parents this is really rough for you. Go with the parent where there is the least change, unless there is another bigger reason for going with the other. Talk with a school counselor. This is more common than you realize. They could be a good support.
2007-09-15 22:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt this way many times myself, I am better now. It sounds like your support network is disappearing, let you parents know how you are feeling, it is important for them to be involved in your life. It might turn out that you might need to see a therapist (for help sorting out all that you have to deal with). If it turns out that you have to see a therapist (also called a psychotherapist), don't feel ashamed or scared, it will help, but it takes time. I hope this helps. Try to think of the good things you still have in your life, and of the good things about yourself that no one can ever change or take away. I hope this helps, good luck.
2007-09-15 22:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by LFM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omq your justt like mee!!
omqqqq...thats weird, lol, becuz foreal tho, my parents are divorced, my boyfriend broke up with me and im heart broken, i just moved so i left many of my friends, my cousin that lived next door to me moved away to, and i HAVE to live with my mom, even tho i dont want to,
well all you have to do really, just pray, think you'll qet a nev bffl!!
just think you'll be okay, and do not cry, thats how im feelinq better, trust me!!
hope i helped!!
=]
-leah
2007-09-15 22:45:53 · answer #8 · answered by Leah H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're having a tough time right now so it's good to cry and not hold it all in. Living with one parent and seeing the other can be beneficial though. My step son always gets extra for everything cause he gets from us and his mom. It won't be so bad. Good luck- it will be ok!
2007-09-15 22:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just...go ahead and cry. There's nothing wrong or shaming about it. Not to mention you'll feel better afterward.
I know you can get through this. It may seem like a lot of crises to deal with for a while...but eventually you'll move on and compensate for the lack of happiness at the moment.
Good luck to you. I'll be praying.
2007-09-15 22:45:37 · answer #10 · answered by Brommy A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋