My friend makes fun of the clothes i wear,my shoes and the way my hair looks. I think she is jelous because i wear hollister outfits, and i buy expensive nike shoes, and my hair looks fine i straighten it and wear it down. She calls me a dork and she says i walk like that deer bambi. She also makes fun of my relationship with a guy i like,she says it is a dorky relationship.She makes me feel bad. What should i say to her what should i do?
2007-09-15 15:34:52 · 59 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You forgot to say she makes fun of you because your dumb.
Hint: shes not your friend so why are you hanging out with her?
2007-09-15 15:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, take a long look at your situation.
You are spending a lot on clothes, making sure your hair is just ever so, and possibly worrying about your appearance more than is healthy.
Your friend may be trying to tell you to come back to earth. You might look "fine" in the designer duds, but you may not being "you".
Your friend should not bully you, but she does have a right and a responsibility to tell you when you are doing something that she sees as wrong for you.
Yes, she may be jealous about the great clothes. On the other hand, she may have seen that the clothes are owning you, rather than the other way around. With them, you adopted an attitude that people just don't like to see.
2007-09-15 15:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a very good friend, a real friend would never say such mean things to hurt each other.
Seh does however sound like she's jealous of you with the things she calls you and the things she says about your relationship with your bf. Now the part about you walking like a deer that mgith not be so bad since a deer walks very cute and graceful.
Have you ever asked her why she talks to you the way she does? I mean other then being jealous she sounds like she has other issues. It really doesn't matter what the reason is she shouldn't talk to you the way she does.
Talk to her about the way she treats you if she refuse to stop or continue to talk to yu the way she does then u may have to end the so called friendship. Let her know that you do not like her talking to you the way and that u will not stand for it to continue to happen.
Good Luck
2007-09-15 15:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You to ask her if she really considers you a friend, and if she says yes then tell her that she needs to take your feelings into consideration. If she says no, then that's the end of it. Tell her that she needs to accept you for you and that a true friend wouldn't criticize. Then add that regardless of what she may say or think, this is your life and you're gonna live it the way you see fit whether she likes it or not because the meaning of a friend is support. Yes you appreciate her honesty, but she has to know how to say things like that without being harsh, and if she's your true friend, she WILL change.
2007-09-19 05:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hrm... Well, there are tons of things u can do,
1. You can confront her, ask her what's up, what you're doing wrong, don't act like it's her fault or anything, if it continues, then u can act how ever u like
2. You could make a joke out of everything she says
3. You could repeat everything she says
4. You could insult her back-- although that would be immature and selfish.
You're right, she is jealous, and probably doesn't have much self confidence-- my friend does that 2 me 2, i just ignore her, and give her the cold shoulder a lot.
2007-09-15 15:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2014-04-07 18:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start out by saying that I went through this when I was in grade school. It was miserable for me and I regret the day I met the person who treated me so badly. That said, nip it in the bud NOW. Tell her how you feel and that if she doesn't stop putting you down that you will take action, for example, you won't want to be her friend if that's what you will follow through with. She sounds very jealous and insecure. She is only saying those things because she wishes she could have what you have. Anyone who has to put everything down about someone has to be miserable inside their own body. I feel sorry for your friend because there is obviously something deeper going on with her to make her treat you this way. You HAVE to stand up for yourself or it will not stop and she will drag you down with her, trust me, I know. I wish I could stress to you how extremely important it is for you not to allow her, or anybody for that matter to treat you this way. This, as I'm sure you can tell by my answer, hits a very deep scar in me. Again, I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Don't let her bully you anymore. Be strong and pick friends that will treat you with respect. I wish you well.
2007-09-15 15:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by mom3x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first thing you should do is stop calling this person your friend. Clearly they are not. Secondly stop caring what other people think of the way you look or dress. Your an individual with individual style. I shaved my head so I could stop worrying about what people thought of my hair and experienced a personal rebirth. Tell your "friend" to get lost and move on with your life.
2007-09-15 15:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by woodbutcher21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends don't continually make us feel bad. A friend should enrich your life, not fill it with self-doubt and defensiveness. Tell her she's out of line, and ask her why she's your "friend" if you're so dorky. Maybe she doesn't hear what she's saying and is not aware how unkind she's being. Bring it to her attention and if she doesn't stop her bullying, then girl, she ain't no friend of yours!
2007-09-15 15:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by irishgitana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone that makes fun of you is not a friend. To be honest you should just drop her off your friends list. Of course you could be nice and giver her a second chance and tell her how you feel. If that is the option you chose then be blunt. Do not try to be polite or political. That is all I can tell you. I hope it helps.
2007-09-15 15:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by jcandelario31419 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't your friend honey, shes probably just a tag on to you as you seem nice, friendly and popular, and she ain't any of those. Get rid of the likes of her, you don't need the hassle or the remarks from her. Sounds like shes the dork really, doesn't it ??
2007-09-15 15:42:06 · answer #11 · answered by Star Bright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋