I mean should u be mad and annoyed when she does not stop talking about her boyfriend or should u just accept it and be happy for her? I don't know how i should react to it. Im just getting mad at her for it because she never shuts up about her boyfriend and its like she i rubbing it in my face that i dont't have one. what should i do?
2007-09-15 15:26:00 · 29 answers · asked by ShortbutAwesome 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Both. If she won't shut up about him, you have a right to be mad. But if she only brings him up once in a while, you should be happy for her. If she won't shut up about him, subtly lull her away from the topic by taking something she said and making it into another topic. But if that doesn't work, you need to take her aside and tell her she's talking too much about him. Be nice, though!!! Hope I helped!!!!
2007-09-15 15:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by halei413 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think tell her straight how you feel
i had a friend like that - i am married and so was he
then his wife died and my hubby and i supported him through the aftermath
then a year later he just disappeared
he wasnt at home
he wasnt at work (NOT like him at all!)
no one seemed to know where he was
i feared the worst thinking he could have been mugged or suffered a nervous breakdown or something serious
then after a month it turned out that he had met someone on holiday and decided to shack up with them without a word to anyone
oh BOY was i mad!
the worst bit was he just didnt get it and thought i was 'jealous' (yeah right!)
i did get an invite to the wedding but i realised that due to his behaviour and the lack of consideration that it was the end of the friendship
your friend is head over heels and probably finds thinking about anything other than her fella difficult at the moment - that is likely to pass in a month or two and at which point she will be a better friend to you like the old days
remember this tho when you do get a bf - not to exclude your friends - a balance of time spent with your bf and time spent with your friends will be healthier for your relationship in the long run. if your relationship doesnt work out then you still HAVE friends that way and if it DOES work out then your friends will soon find bfs of their own and then you can organise some couples time with them cant you?
2007-09-15 15:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you SHOULD be happy for her. If she's not the kind of person to rub things in your face, then she's probably not doing it now. Give her the benefit of the doubt. In the mean time, try TELLING her you want to talk about something else. Just be nice about it. You can laugh and say "Talking about Bob AGAIN? I know he's great, but tell me something else!" Try to say it without sarcasm, and you should be good.
2007-09-15 15:31:37 · answer #3 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should be happy for her. It IS annoying when people are always talking about how great their boyfriends are.
Just try to ignore it, but don't be mad at her. When you get a boyfriend, you'll be so happy all you'll want to talk about is how sweet he is, what he says to you, how much you love him, etc. Trust me.
She isn't rubbing it in your face, she's just happy about her bf.
2007-09-15 15:34:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to what she has to say, and then whenever she stops to breathe change the subject to something else. I kind of talked a lot about a boyfriend once and my friends got a little annoyed but they were still there for me and they listened.
2007-09-15 15:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by supersillysmarty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't rubbing it in your face- she's just excited about her new relationship and wants to share that with you- plus it's probably all she's thinking about. Be happy for her. If it bothers you still, tell her you are happy for her, but that it makes you sad that you aren't in the same situation.She'll take this as a hint hopefully and try to curb the talk about it.
2007-09-15 15:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is so excited and she just needs to share it all with her girlfriend. Listen to her but let her know that you also want to talk about other things and that you would like to have a boyfriend too so that you both can relate to the same things. If she isn't willing to consider this, then I think you two are going different directions.
2007-09-15 15:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for friends to go overboard when they get a now boyfriend and it's also normal for their friends to be totally annoyed by all the talk about him. Just tell her you'll give her some time to get over the newness of her guy and get back to her when she's back to normal. Either she'll get the hint and stop annoying you or she'll spend that time with him until he starts to annoy her and she'll get back to you once that happens...and it will, trust me.
2007-09-15 15:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just has her what else is been happening? Maybe she's not aware all she talks about is this guy. If you are true friends then try to have a talk about it. Let her know how you feel. If you are true friends then she shouldn't have a problem talking about it with you. Just don't be over bearing about it!
2007-09-15 15:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by empire_197@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, but annoying, for her to talk about her new boyfriend all the time. Now you know what not to do when you get a boyfriend!
2007-09-15 15:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋