When did you lose your virginity?

Question

I'm DEFINITELY waiting until I'm married.

But, where I live, girls around the age of 12 and up are losing their virginity with men twice their age.

So, I know that I have certain morals and that others might not have the same beliefs.

On the other hand, I wanted to hear other peoples' stories.

So please, this is what I would like to know:

-Age

-Your feelings on teen sex

-And last, if you regret anything.

(If any regrets, please be specific on what.)


Thanks for the help.

Answer 1

I think that is normal the bibble do not said

Answer 2

I know a woman who is 25 and she's still a virgin. She's never done anything with a guy at all but kiss. She's waiting until she gets married - not anytime soon since she doesn't date.

She'd probably date more now as an adult if she had gotten any experience at all with the opposite sex before she was in college. Fact is, she never learned to be intimate at any level and is now feeling the result of that intimate isolation. Many young people learn about intimacy in their middle and HS years and without learning that, there can be nothing later because the learning phase is over - relationships at 24 years old are very different than at 15 and very few 27 year old guys will want to play 7th grade dating.

I suppose, if she never gets married, she'll still be a virgin when her time to go comes. Or maybe they can make a sequel to that one movie and this time it'll be a 40-year old woman.

Personally, I think 12 is WAY too young - 40 is way too old. Sometime in between there is reasonable. Even if you don't get married.

Answer 3

I was 17 years old (3 months shy of my 18 B-day). I have no regrets. I was very much in love with him at the time and I made my choice wisely. I honestly feel that teens should wait until they are out of high school to have sex. It simplifies things immensely.

My husband was a virgin on our wedding night. (22 years old) He has no regrets with his choice.

Answer 4

The only guy i ever been with was my fiance i dated him for 3 years before doing anything and when i turned 18 i lost it i dont regret it now im 20 and i wish i would of experienced with other men as well

Answer 5

well, im 14...i think that people arent taking it seriously enough, i know alot of people that have already had sex and i dont think they eeven realize the choice that they make, its sad..i personally believe this: if you are ready to have sex then you have to be fuly prepared to have a baby, im not saying that you alwyas will, but i think it has to be the situation where if u did get pregnant, then it would be ok..i dont know if that neccesarily means marriage, but most likely, thats why im most likely not goin to go very far wiht a guy until im married, plus, im so self concious that it would be just too wierd with anybody except for that one right guy, the one i know that will love me no matter what..i dont have any regrets in the sexual department cuz ive never done anything like that..lotsa regrets, but not in that department of life, lol, i hope it helped to get a teens point of view =)

Answer 6

I was 16, girlfriend was 17. We had been together for 9 months. We discussed it plenty before hand, and used protection. Neither of us had any moral or religious qualms about premarital underage sex, and i was as eager as her to give it a try. I have no regrets, me and my girlfriend have been together for over 1 and a half years now, and neither of us having any problems! Goodluck!

Answer 7

i didn't "lose" anything - i GAVE it to a boy i did care for. He was 17 and i was 13 - FAR, FAR too young. BUT, i was lucky in that he was tender, kind, sweet and i do believe, even to this day (and at 48), that he loved me.

At my age, i couldn't care less about virginity. It simply holds no meaning for me anymore, but i do remember it was a big deal at 13. We dated until i was 19 and then both married someone else. It hurt. But not that i had let him be my first. i learned most of what i know of intimacy, of genuine affection, of sharing and "taking turns" - yeah i know that sounds funny, but it really is much about what we learn as children - being polite, fair.

But most of all, even at that young age, he taught me about love and the power it has over sex when they come together. Yeah, sorry, but i do believe that had i simply "lost' it to some guy for the sake of just letting it go, i would have felt differently.

Regrets? No. But, i still was too young and certainly wouldn't want any other young girl to have sex at that age. It just happened to be OK for me, but rarely works out that way at that age. In fact, almost never. Most girls that young wind up feeling betrayed. And had i become pregnant, sick or worse, it, of course, would not have been OK. So, i don't want anyone to think i condone my own history - i don't. In fact, i encouraged my own son to remain a virgin until marriage. Did he? No, but i tried, and he was 22.

As far as teen sex, i think kids are doing things they aren't socially ready for even if their bodies are quite prepared. In the US, we keep our children sheltered longer for a reason. In other countries, other cultures, many young people are considered adults at 13 or so, but here that's just too young. Our society is a very complicated one and it takes a young person a longer time to be ready for all the intricate complex concepts involved in living on one's own, in being a socially viable personality. For this culture, tho i don't really find that marriage is a necessity, i do find a committed relationship the best context in which to experience sex.

Women are wired differently than men. They are emotionally effected by sexual activity as they are prepared to bring life into the world and programed to mate well, to choose the best provider and they tend to attach easily to their sexual partners. Men, on the other hand, are wired to mate often. The differences are many and as we become more civilized, the sexes seem to be more homogenized, to become more and more like each other. i find it a mistake and against nature. It will come back in our faces one day - if it hasn't already...

OK, off my soapbox... gentle thoughts to you darling and very good question... thanks.

Answer 8

18 i think teens today are out of control with the whole sex deal. ive seen 11 year olds pregnant. i wish more were like u and i regret that the only man ive ever slept with was my husband. i wish i had experienced someone else too.