How do i cope(what else to do)?

Question

i have seen a psychiatrist and psychologist and have been diagonised with social anxiety .i am currently on anti-depressantsand i also practice deep muscle relaxation techniques and breathing exercises.i have got abit better but i have a problem with my 'fight or flight reflex'.i feel like i cannot cope anymore.when i walk in quiet streets or places and a car just appears suddenly or a person looks at me i jerk,almost running away,move really quickly(sort of an adrenaline surge).i don't have much of a problem with crowded places as i just blend in.when i am walking in hallways and someone appears the same happens.when people enter rooms that i am in(when they get me unaware) i jump and feel like running away.it is an automatic response and it has become part of me.i have been signed off work as i was always been kicked out of jobs and everyone thlnks that i am an idiot.i just cannot control it and people are always gossiping and i have become a laughing stock.what do i do?

Answer 1

Your medication not working.

Answer 2

until you can cope I would suggest that you get a job that you can do from home, from the internet, or open your own business so that there will be no sudden surprises of someone new making you jerk. You might want to figure out if your medication helped you any (from prior to taking it to now) and if it hasn't or has made things worse then tell your doctor that. You didn't say how long this has been going on for you so you might want to take a look at just when you began to feel this way or start to have anxiety. Some foods can have a reaction in people (honestly), some smells, some things we are exposed to (paint, insecticides, other chemicals) that we react to, or even lack of certain vitamins and minerals so you might want to have your blood tested to see if you are lacking anything. Sometimes anxiety is caused by some fear or bad experience we've had and you might want to determine if that happened to you. You need a starting point to work from. See if you can come up with one on your own and then take that information to your psychologist. Also tell them what drugs you've taken, legal, illegal, even over-the-counter ones over the years as one of those may have given you a bad reaction. Even some nose sprays affect people, or even pain killers..

Answer 3

I can only offer ideas off the top of my head as a layperson. I certainly would seek new doctors, medication or other forms of therapy. This is not living and you deserve a life! Hypnotherapy sounds necessary to get to the origin of the automatic physical reactions.

This has to have a source in an early experience or a long pattern of experiences of feeling physically under threat. It becomes embedded in the belief system but also in the body chemistry when the child faces threat before the massive thinking brain is fully evolved enough to help you reflect on what is happening. Your reaction is happening in the body first and your brain is BELIEVING in the exaggerated physical reactions you're feeling. You say it has become a part of you. But, these reactions are NOT YOU. They are patterns in your mind/body system that you must detach from in order to master.

You are NOT your feelings, or thoughts or perceptions. (NONE of us are) Think of it this way, as a soul inhabiting a body, YOU are the OBSERVER of the imprinted ego beliefs which control feelings, thoughts and misperceptions. Whether one is suffering a debilitating illness or an existential crisis accepting this is the beginning of gaining detaching from programmed patterns of what is essentially the defensive egoic survival system.

I've also read of people having phobic attacks that go back to past life trauma. This is probably unlikely but a hypnotist could help if this were the case.

Do NOT give up. Keep seeking answers.

Answer 4

You too sensitive to the presence of others. You do not mention animals, so I assume that it is limited to people only.

I would not bother to try and "understand" it, as that will take forever and you will still have it.

I would except it, and do something about it.

Set yourself the goal of becoming a black belt in karate.

Then do it in four years.

By the end of the four years, you will not be able to even remember this problem.

Got it? You have to learn how to fight.

Answer 5

the jumpy, flighty and uneasiness towards sudden or surprise people or objects who catch off guard might be an effect from domestic violence. 5,10,15+ years can go by and the jumpiness and sudden surprises might still linger. try googling dv and effects on victims (or effects on children if you had similar jumpiness instances as a kid) might be helpful, or try talking it over with your therapist.

if this is totally offbase then nevermind. hope this helps - if you understand why then you can understand how to fix it

Answer 6

u joking, if not get get some help from a spiritualist (like joel olsteen)