How can I improve my life? 10 points for the best advice. Thank you?

Question

Hi everyone,

What do you think about my life? How can I improve it? (Sorry for the poor grammar--English is my second language.)

I am 22 years old. I am a lower middle class. I am a virgin. I am a good person. I am studying full-time (last year in a Master's program) I am working two part-time jobs. I want to save my money ;therefore, I have no cars, no phones, and living in a little room. I hardly have a social life because I am spending my time working and studying.

Sometimes, I am proud of myself because I will have my master's without debts or student loans. Sometimes, I feel so discourage and down to see other people my age have fun and enjoy life while I have to work so hard.

What do you think? Please advice. Thank you so much for your kindness.

Answer 1

You have discovered the joy of delayed gratification.

Once you have your masters, no one can take your education away from you. No one can take away what is going to open up to you when you graduate. You are one year away from all sorts of new opportunities and having the life that you had dreamed about and worked towards.

Your life will improve when you stop perceiving it as being anything but desirable. You want to be like them. Three quarters of the world want to be like you -- a debt free education and a master's degree. More than 80% of the world never even see the hallways of a college or university.

Don't feel sorrow for your situation. You have the ideal situation by most standards.

Answer 2

The first thing I would suggest is that you don't classify
yourself as "lower middle class"...that alone will keep
you in a rut no matter how many degrees you might have.
Secondly, look around and try and share a house with a lot of
others...they have cars and phones you can borrow..
and there will be lots of people coming in and out that
you can interact with. Also, try and set aside at least
a few hours a week for fun. Go to the local club and
dance your pants off for a couple of hours to some
really loud rock. You don't need a date..just get out
there and shake it out...even if you're shy...no one
will notice and you'll feel great...and come back with
renewed energy. You need to feed your soul on some
level anyway each day. Rock, meditation, playing with
animals...something away from your intense schedule
or you'll end up resenting the pace and the work. You're
doing a fantastic thing with your studying but the teeter
totter needs to be balanced to work properly. Bon chance.

Answer 3

I think you are a very dedicated and goal oriented young woman. Young being the key word. You must follow your dreams, but not at the expense of loosing your passion in the process. I admire you for getting your masters degree, and doing it debt free at that. You should remain proud of yourself, don't ever let other people's lack of discipline get in your way of that. You can however take from their enjoyment of life and learn to relax when you can...even without spending any money. Life is all about balance and you are leaning too far on one end of the teeter-totter which could cause you to crash and loose your vision for the future. Try going out for 2 hours at a time. Tell your friends this is ALL the time you have and make a game up that will take about that long. Try going to Wal-Mart or somewhere cheap that you can walk to with a lot of different choices and tell each person they have 30 minutes, or fifteen, to go find ONE gift for each person in the group, or assign each person someone to shop for. The gift has to be under $5 and something the person you are shopping for would LOVE and actually be able to use. You don't have to buy the gifts either. Just exchange them in a specific area of the store and walk around together when you are finished and put each item back. Or go to the book store and pick out books that would best describe the person you are assigned. Same goes for listening to songs in the music store that would best describe their life. Whatever you do, do it with a relaxed mind-set, WITHOUT thinking about work or school and HAVE FUN!!

Answer 4

Find more balance to your life. I believe that what you are trying to do is admirable, but I also believe that you're going way too fast. Many people your age have just finished up their Bachelor's degree. School and work are not the only things to life, there is also social aspects (there are so many things to do, and I don't mean just the stupid college kid things like drinking, but live music and art and museums and coffee houses and parks and barnes and nobel's on a saturday afternoon withOUT studying), relationships - friendships and romantic (dating, not just serious), and relaxation. Honestly, how much time do you spend just doing nothing? Are you okay with being you, all by yourself, with nothing to do? From experience, its a hard place to be, especially if you've never done it.
Good luck.

Answer 5

Stick with it. Eventualy you will graduate and you can get a good job. Then you can be the one enjoying your life. Hehehe, then you can go on nice vacations to places like Greece.

But honestly, I think you should try to have atleast some fun time. Donate atleast 15 mins to do whatever you want, to have fun. Maybe get a hobby. Find something that you will look forward to doing everyday.

Also try to enjoy EVERY little thing that you do. Don't walk just to get from one place to another, ENJOY the walk.


"I slept and dreamt that life was Joy.
I woke and saw that life was Duty.
I acted, and behold, Duty was Joy."
-Rabindranath Tagore

Answer 6

Milk and Cookies. I found that when I was in school and doing my homework...I would get frustrated if I was sitting too long with my face in my books, reading, writing, doing essays, or studying for exams. I discovered that the quality of my work improved when I paid attention to my body signals [I'm too tired, or I was hungry]...so I would have a snack, like milk and cookies,...and relax in front of the t.v. for an hour, or call a friend, or go outside and play tennis for an hour and a half...and then resume to my studies. Your mind and body need periods of relaxation in order to function better. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 7

I would say "stick it out", stay on your present course. Once you get to the end, it will have been worth it In the mean time answer a few questions on yahoo as a temporay escape from your demanding routine, Also, kind of keep on the look out for someone that has a simular schedule as yours, You could like get together once a week and do whatever. But don't intentionally spend your time trying to find someone. YOU DON'T HAVE TIME!

Answer 8

You shoudl be pround! Good for you, studying and working so hard. Been there, done that, your reward is coming. For now, get some relaxation when you can. Walk in the park, talk to a friend. Going out is good but you can do that when the hard part is over. And you'll be in a better position to really enjoy yourself.

Answer 9

The simple answer is to define your personal happiness. Your dilemma seems to revolve around your interpretation of the value of material things versus the internal qualities that you hold dear (owing things and having fun vs. perseverance, frugality, and hard work). To me, it sounds like you need to find a balance between these two needs.

I would try to accept the basic principle that you can never be perfect. Instead you can try to strive to do your best, rely upon your personal moral compass as your guide, and trust your instincts. Everything will work out fine.

Answer 10

you are still young and there is so much life yet for you to enjoy. once you make it you can use that money to do far more than what some may never see or do. Im going through the same, never give up!