...im like really scared now....this is the story....last year i was in the 7th grade and this boy ....his name is lance .....i like him (ALOT) aneways he planned a joke on me he pretended that he liked me to and he touched me ....and i was scared.....and he said that he did it because he was testing me ..to see if i was gunna believe him......and everytime he signs online. he always messages me ..saying you wanna have computer sex?? i dont know if he says that just to annoy me or what ...and i say yes because i used to like him but he still asks me and everytime i sit next to him whether im in a lab ...or class he still finds ways to touch me ..i dont know if he does that to annoy me or what i dont know what the hell is his problem ..i wanna tell someone at school but i cant trust anyone i just dont know what to do ...what do you think i should do?
2007-09-15 12:22:37 · 8 answers · asked by Loreta S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
go to the school conselor... talk to them and also it's kinda like sexaul harrassment here...
2007-09-15 12:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Gainy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends I suppose. Be assertive, like this, "Lance bug off. If you want to hang out with me don't do that anymore." Be direct and be pissed off. Hopefully this will make the problem go away without involving anybody else but ... beware. If it does not work, then you have to be more assertive still.
If he does not leave you alone, don't let the "code of silence" keep you from accepting this behaviour. This is kind of close to rape, seriously. Message me and I can tell you what happende to a girl your age when i was in school.
Also, whether you liked a guy or not does not matter!!! When you like a guy, it does NOT give him the right to do whatever he wants. It takes too to tango. Anyway, this kind of behaviour leads to what's called "date" rape. IF HE LIKES YOU, HE WOULD NOT DISRESPECT YOU LIKE THIS.
Good luck.
P.S. if you do have to resort to telling on him, tell your friends, he just kept bugging you and would not stop. I think you'll find, HE and not you, will be the outcast!!!
2007-09-15 12:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by rostov 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right to not trust him or anyone else. He may be asking if you want computer sex thinking he can get you interested in real sex.... boys are dogs and don't care about the girls...just the sex. Him toucking you is another issue. He is asaulting you whether you realize it or not. Tell him to stop and if he doesn't tell the teacher or a school counselor. He needs to learn manners and the difference betwen right and wrong.
2007-09-15 12:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if it is annoying you, you need to tell him to stop. One of my best friends was doing the same thing to me. He'd go around tapping my thighs and caress my body when I was near him and I thougt it was kind of flattering because I liked him. After awhile though, it was quite annoying and I told him he needed to stop because I found out he didnt even like me. So if it annoying you, tell him to stop.
2007-09-15 12:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to touch you tell him that. Nobody can touch you without your consent. If he continues to touch you after you tell him to stop then you need to tell the teacher. Never let anyone do anything to you that you do not want.
2007-09-15 12:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT LET HIM TOUCH YOU ANY MORE! You are only in 8th grade right? Do not let you guard down! That is wrong... your only 13. Tell him to stop and if he dosn't tell someone!
2007-09-15 12:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
slap him if you dont like it.. he might like that XD just tell him NO or to just FUKC OFF XD its okay but i mean aif you dont wana do that.. then just tell him to stop
2007-09-15 12:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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wow, thats. . . . um, . . . . that's. . . .
i think you should tell because that is against the law, and is just. . . . ew!
2007-09-15 12:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Beatle-Juice 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋