my son is 12 andi found him masturbating what shoul i do?

Answer 1

Make sure he knows that this is something he should be doing in his own room, not in a place where he could be discovered by others. Then give him the privacy a kid needs at this age.
He is going to do it whether you approve of it or not, so you are better off teaching him how to be responsible and private about it.

Answer 2

In my opinion, your approach should be based on whether your son knows you found him masturbating. If he indeed knows you caught him, then, I believe you really need to have a talk....and by that I mean....a talk about how that's normal...nothing to be ashamed of...but, something done privately......i agree with one of the other responders, this may be a great time for bonding between the two of you so that in the future he may be more likely to discuss other issues about sex and sexuality with you.....

If he doesn't know you found him in the act, hmmm, that's a tough one. Some guys have really open relationships with their dads and in this situation the dad could very easily and comfortably approach the subject. However, some other dads and sons do not enjoy such a relationship. It will be awkward for the both of you, I would imagine. Perhaps, you should consider having another (hopefully you've already had the sex talk with him) talk about maturing and sexuality...and the normal activity of masturbation among boys and men. But, perhaps address it in "the third person"..not directly focused on him.

I don't know if my answer helped you much, man. I just remember those years in my own life. Dealing with all the guilt. Thinking I was a freak...the only guy masturbating. I just think it would have been such a relief to have SOMEBODY...some important male in my life sit down and talk with me about such matters. Good luck. Be well.

Answer 3

If he knows that you saw him, go talk to him! Make sure he knows that it's normal, not a big deal and that you are not going to talk to his mom about it. Now is not the time to start making him even more self conscious about his sexuality. If anything, talking to him now and making him feel OK about it will increase your chances that he'll talk to you about sex etc. as he gets older. Either way, my advice is to acknowledge it and tell him it's OK. IF he does'nt want to talk bout it further don't make him. Just give him the option. Maybe even tell him that you did when you were his age? That's what I'd do. My son isn't there yet but will be in a few more years. I wish my dad had done the same thing. Instead I felt guilty for years for no reason.

Answer 4

Tell him that in Great Britain it may be acceptable to masturbate at the dinner table during dinner parties but in America, it's not the best place to whip it out and beat it, even if Marilyn Chambers IS dining with you.

Answer 5

Masturbation is particularly popular. you are able to no longer instruct him to end, nor would desire to you. you mustn't even permit him comprehend which you comprehend that he's doing this. on the age of 12, he desires and merits privateness and comprehend. Love him sufficient to furnish him that. via the way, while a teenager male stops masturbating lots, it probable capability he's began having intercourse...

Answer 6

Nothing. I remember at that age already feeling guilty about what I was doing. If my parents had ever caught me, I'd have been horrified if they decided to talk to me about it.

At most, just offhandedly suggest that he should lock/close his door when he wants some "privacy", but don't push the subject beyond that.

Answer 7

Well, your course of action is going to depend on a few things, such how sexual things are perceived in your Household. If your family is very open about sexual things, and talk openly and honest, I would simply talk to him. Tell him that it is a natural curiosity that most people encounter as a part of growing up. Now on the other hand, if your family is very religious, or do not talk openly about sexual things, then you might want to approach the situation with a little more tact.

The issue here is the underlying possibility of being so desensitized of nudity, that he could develop, if not already have an addiction.

In this case I would have to say that I would still explain that it is a natural curiosity to have. But, I would also explain that it not healthy for someone of his age to be concerned with things of a sexual nature. Reassure him that there will be a time for that soon enough, but now is not that time. Having strong morals in the household or a decent religious background should make this talk a pretty easy one.

Also make sure that he understands that if this is a result of him seeing or hearing something that he does not fully understand, that you will be there to talk to him about it.

When I was a child, my parents divorced, and both turned into workoholics. That lead me to having a lot of time to myself. I discovered my sexual feelings at a very early age, about the same age as your son. And while I know that it is not wrong for a grown male to look at pornography. I'm pretty sure that I watch more than the average amount, and have recently realized that it is negatively impacting my life now. And I'm not saying that your son will turn out like I have. But, if he does, you have the chance to end it now.


Be brave!!

Answer 8

Why r you even asking this question???? what do you want to do?? scare him for life and make him feel guilty and tell him you caught him masturbating and ask him why was he doing it ?? i think not !? give him the grace of privacy! its normal and healthy. its his body and he is going through the normal stages of exploration and discovery in a safe environment . don't you tell me and everyone else on yahoo answers that you have NEVER masturbated??!!! and dont it feel good???

Answer 9

I have two yong sons, 15 and 13, and I've got to tell ya as a mom this would freak me out! I dont know why? But we are their moms so I guess its normal, just like your son masterbating, it is natural, while we dont like to think of our little boys turning into men it does happen and their is not a damn thing we can do to stop it, so we just love them and accept them for who they are.

Answer 10

Make fun of him lol J/K just talk to to him about it, its natural but talk to him like in a nice or funny way so he doesn't get embarrass.