ones i felt him he brough me that girl.... and he said he wanted to work things up and she told me that they were just going to let me know that they are gonna be together....
2007-09-15 11:08:43 · 36 answers · asked by diana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IT sounds like he is not very remorseful. Ask yourself how much are you worth? How much is your baby worth? If you feel that you are not worth somebody being faithful too then by all means take him back...if you consider yourself and your baby worthy of loyalty respect and commitment. Send him on his way and start the process of growing up and deal with your situation. AT this point it has to become about you and your baby. If he is not mature enough to deal with the situation, then you don't need him holding you back. If he works, make him pay for his obligation. You need to decide what YOU are going to do now.
2007-09-15 11:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by nuyoricancop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him but get his DNA to make sure the scoundrel pays child support and follows through with his parental responsibilities. Don't stress out during your pregnancy, and try to enjoy it knowing you have exercised integrity, dignity and self love to not keep this jerk in your life as a boyfriend. You deserve more than that. Here's a little exercise: try to imagine you have a great friend who is pregnant and has a boyfriend who is cheating on her. Wouldn't your reaction to her boyfriend be that he's a total scumbag? Wouldn't you tell your friend to drop him? Wouldn't you think the guy was a low life? I mean, what kind of a man would do such an immoral thing? If you are not thinking clearly, then practice disliking him and disrespecting him until you realize it isn't practice anymore---you mean it in every pore of your precious body.
2007-09-15 11:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not take him back without having him marry you. Make him get off dead-center and be a man about it. Demand a commitment.
This junk about "living together" and providing him with the full benefits of a marriage without the legal protections is ... well... junk. That is selling yourself (and the baby) short.
Time to grow up!
You are giving him sex, doing all the household chores, paying half the bills, and taking most of the risks of sex... and now there is a baby on the way. He is already liable for child support, so remind him of that.
On top of that, living together as a couple for "X-amount of time" makes you common-law married in most states. You can be saddled with his debts. If he dies, you don't have the ability to collect the life insurance, and if he is on life support, you don't have the ability to pull the plug... yet they can hold you responsible for all the hospital bills. So there you have all the risks and none of the benefits.
Make him do right by you.
2007-09-15 11:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Don't Think That You Should Take Him Back, But If You Know That He's The Father Of Your Child Then You Need To Let Him Know He Needs To Take Care Of His Responsibilities! If He Refuses, Press Charges.
2007-09-15 11:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by ILY♥!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No once a cheat always a cheat. You should take the bas#@^&ard to court for child support and get on with your life. Take him back and he will cheat on you again, and again but now you'll wake up and be a single mom at 45 with three kids, instead of a single mom much younger with one kid. Being a single mom is hard enough with out going though the drama of dealing with a bone head boy friend.
2007-09-15 11:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by The Last Lamoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This whole thing sounds dysfunctional. He is the father of your child and that child has a right to enjoy his father's guardianship. However if he is being unfaithful, he is being selfish. He doesn't need another girlfriend. He needs God and He needs to accept the responsibilities of a family. If you are not going to a bible teaching church, you should do that to establish a support group. There are women there who will be willing to help you. God can settle disputes so you need someone to help you pray. Be bold and take these steps and your boyfriend will see the light,hopefully sooner than later.
2007-09-15 11:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by JesusIsTheAnswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> should i take him back?
Sure, if you want to live with a cheating scum bag and a lying stack of poop.
"Hon, can you change the baby's diaper while I do the dishes?"
"No, I'm going out. It's 2-for-1 night at Harry's Hot Spot, and I might get lucky."
The worst that can happen is he can bring hope Herpes, AIDS, syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia . . .
Don't you want to live with someone that will bring home a rose, or a loaf of bread and a jug of milk? Someone you can TRUST, someone who will be a role model for your child?
Look at what he did - he cheated. Don't look at what he said. Then start planning on how you are going to raise the child by yourself.
2007-09-15 11:21:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feeling's for this guy and he promise's to never cheat again and you feel like you should then yes. But if you don't give him another chance, you should take a long time to think about you & you'r baby's future of you'r child because the baby is going to want a father.
2007-09-15 11:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i definitely don't think that you should take him back since he obviously doesn't care. and as for the baby i don't think that you should even visit him when you have the baby, cause later in life if you ever do get married to some one worth marrying, then the child is going to be torn between two families and then he/she will live a very complicated life. that is exactly the way my life is and it sucks! good luck i hope this helps.
2007-09-15 11:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, cut your losses and focus on your child. It sounds like he's never going to change and she was TOTALLY insensitive to tell you something like that.
Hope you have family nearby who can help you with the baby, cause you're going to need them.
Sorry, but you're better off without that loser! Hope you find a good guy sometime and he will love you AND your coming child. God bless you both.
2007-09-15 11:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋