I am about to sleep with somebody for the first time. He has been with many experienced ladies, and seeing that it will be my first time, I am afraid I am not going to be any good. Any tips for me? ( I havent had oral sex either, so that can not help me). What can I do to be less bad in bed?
2007-09-15 11:06:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Drew, already know that. Thanks anyway, but I dont think I will be moaning or grinding like the girls in the porn!
2007-09-15 11:21:22 · update #1
He has been tested, we are going to use a condom, he said I dont have to do anything, that he will do all the work so to speak, but still, I feel bad. I mean, I should put my 2 cents in it too, show him a good time, right?
2007-09-15 11:46:33 · update #2
I am not into that "first time should be with someone you love" thing. I would rather have a decent first time with a decent guy, that respects me and knows what he is doing, than with a love struck puppy that ends up hurting me.
2007-09-15 12:36:04 · update #3
I'm only worried that he's just taking advantage of you and not loving you and will end up leaving you.
2007-09-15 11:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let him know it's your first time. Take it slow and don't force it. Let it happen as it happens. Make him wear a condom. Make sure you're plenty wet - use lube if you need it - but if you're letting it happen there should be plenty of natural lube. Have him give you oral first. It's a great warm up. And so long as you enjoy the moment, enjoy the man you're with, and don't lie there like a limp fish, he'll enjoy it too. No worries about being bad in bed. It's all about figuring out what you as partners enjoy and what makes you feel good. Oh. And don't let him pressure you into doing anything you do not want to do.
Good luck and enjoy!
2007-09-15 11:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever your body tells you that you need to do. Trying to do anything else is not your natural style.
He has the hard job here on this one. You can experiment with new ideas later but for this time just try to concentrate on how you're feeling and what your body says do. If your brain says "scream now" then do it. If it says "claw into his back" then do it. If it says "put your legs over his shoulders" then do it. Whatever your body (not your magazines) tells you to do.
All of the tips in the world on how to perform are useless - they're all fake. The only thing that is real is what your body tells you to do in reaction to his. That's your natural performance. If you resist what your body says do that's the bad part. You have to be the woman that you are - not the woman in the porn movie or your sister or your best friend or his ex-GF or someone here on Answers.
Nike says 'just do it' and that's some pretty solid advice. If he knows how to get it all started - your body will show you what to do with him. And you will hear afterwards "OMG! that was awesome" as long as you are you.
2007-09-19 05:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by CoachT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as bad as it might sound....maybe try watching some porn. Ummm....Read Cosmo. Make sure to tighten your CP Muscles during the act. ( the muscle's that make you hold your pee). Do you plan on giving oral? Pretend its an ice cream cone. No matter how much i tell you, its really going to depend alot on the situation, and what you feel comfortable doing. Ask him what he likes. And i've never met anyone whose 1st time was amazing, but you learn from experience.
Sorry my answer wasnt acceptable enough, just trying to be helpful with the decision it seemed you had already made. I guess next time i'll make sure and question both of your morals instead of actually trying to give you solid advice. Bastos Ka. Oh yeah...use a condom
2007-09-15 11:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The adventure of giving your virginity away is a few thing you will stay with continuously. So once you do, the two one among your''ll must be deeply in love. intercourse has continuously been overvalued and individuals are wanting to start yet think of roughly, in like ten years time, once you think of back you're able to choose your first time to ensure and noteworthy. So i'm happy you probably did no longer yet and are waiting for somebody who loves you.
2016-11-14 13:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by jackson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly suggest long before you sleep with the man you make sure, with his sexual history, he has been tested for sexual diseases. And be sure to use a condom.
If he expects you to be perfect in bed, the first time, etc., then maybe he is the wrong person. A person who truly loves you would not rush you into something you are not ready to experience and would guide you through his experience so BOTH of you enjoy the experience!
2007-09-15 11:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"He has been with many experienced ladies" I see a big problem with that statement. He obviously intends to add you to the long list. Why would you de-value yourself for an obvious player.
Your first time should be with someone that deserves you. You should not be considering this guy at all.
2007-09-15 11:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I have learned is kind of experiment around and you will learn what he likes from that. His reactions can tell you a lot. Once you find something that you know he is getting pleasure from do it again and work from that. Last time I had sex with my man he was totally impressed of how well I knew his body. Best of luck!
2007-09-15 13:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by SumsDeigh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your first time. Nothing is expected of you. Relax. Enjoy the sensations, take mental notes when you can, and have a good time. Frankly, he is the one who should be worrying if he is any good or not.
2007-09-15 11:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first time with any guy can be kind of ackward. just enjoy the experience since he knows it's your first time, let him show you what he likes. tell him if you enjoy something he is doing and also tell him if you don't.
2007-09-15 12:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋