my mom wont let me be what i want to be after college..?

Question

I'm 13, and I have never been able to figure out what job I'm going to have after college. I don't want to be a surgeon or a nurse, but I now have my heart set on being a paramedic! My mom TOTALLY disapproves, because her cousin was one and got shot because he was working in a bad area [he's ok now, not dead..] I know it doesn't matter what area I work in because I want to help people. How do I get it across to my mom that its all I want to be?

BTW SHES PAYING FOR COLLEGE AND EVERYTHING I LEARN AFTER THAT

Answer 1

When you're 18 she really can't stop you. I know this is mean and probably not the sort of relationship you want with your Mum.

Maybe you could sit down and explain to her that you really just want to help people and that paramedics are so extremely important. Ask her "what if you fell down the stairs and broke your hip, who would come and rescue you?".

Explain to her that being a paramedic really isn't as dangerous as she might think. Could you get your uncle to talk to her and explain what a usual day for him is like. He probably spends most of his time (I don't mean to be rude by the way) saving old ladies or tending to broken bones.

Guns are scary though, but you could get shot walking down to the shop to get an ice cream!

Tell your Mum you appreciate her concern but you are really passionate about this and you'll hope she'll support you.


When I was 13 I wanted to be a vet. I'm 17 now and I've changed my choice of career at least 10 times since then. So leave all possible career choices open, but it's really good that you're thinking about that stuff!!

Good luck!

Answer 2

Legally, once you're the two 18, you have the appropriate to do regardless of you decide on, and her mom has the appropriate to cut back off her financial help. so which you do have a call, that's only no longer an excellent selection, because of the fact classes and living expenditures fee way greater desirable than you're able to think of, and that's extremely annoying to paintings and learn on a similar time. Her mom does have a sturdy ingredient. there is not any choose for you 2 to hurry into living jointly. the 1st 3 hundred and sixty 5 days of school is a significant existence replace, as is shifting in jointly, so the aggregate could weigh down your dating, or a minimum of placed serious rigidity on it. i in my opinion recommend giving yourselves some area. you could stay on the fringe of her, whether you do no longer stay together with her, and proceed to advance your dating without putting pointless rigidity on it. be pleased about regardless of assist you will get - whether you will get by ability of without her mom's financial help, there is not any would desire to tutor it down, the two. Get separate residences (even in a similar development) for this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days, and then reassess next 3 hundred and sixty 5 days.

Answer 3

There is something in psychology called Identity statuses and they are based on you becoming what you want to be in various areas of your life including vocation. What you are talking about is her making you become Idententy foreclosed, or forcing you to be something you don't want to be. Many of the people who end up like this end up extremely depressed adults and end up having a major ciris later in life. You can gather information on people who become identity foreclosed and give it to her to show her the dangers of what this can do to a person.

Also, of all the people I have known in my life, and I have known a lot, the paramedics are the most satisfied and happiest I have ever met. They really LOVE their jobs, more than most people I have seen, and I could never explain it but they do.

Answer 4

just talk her about it. and in hte end its up to you want to be and what you become.i also want to be a paramedic/ ff. but im thinking doing it with a volunteer dept and then bein a physians asst. what i might also suggest is checking out local fire dept and ems depts. some have explorer post or j companys. where you learn whats its like. and then you can learn about being a paramedic and alos possibley a ff. and then maybe if you join you can talk to the advisor and explain this to him or her and maybe they can talk to your mom. i know my mom was happy when i told her that i wanted to be a ff/medic. and yea she was worried she was also happy bc i was choosing a field is more of a male field. and i am currently in a fd explorer post.

Answer 5

After you are 18 and out of school it is not her decision as to what you can do. My husband's female cousin is a firefighter and she started out as an EMT. She too worked in bad towns here in Washington. She is a big girl, though...over 6' tall. You do what you want.

Answer 6

wow, you're 13 and you know what you want to study, I'm a senior and haven't decided!!! :( anyway, you can be a paramedic if you want! you mom can give you her but cannot decide for you! God gave us all free will, so...is your choice!

Answer 7

just follow your heart & do it
when you achieve your goal and are happy
she'll come around and respect your descion
you may have to work and pay for your own education
but hey thats worth having your own dream

Answer 8

your mother cant cut off ur dream. tell her ur heart is really set on being this, and tell her u promise to be really safe. if she still wont pay for college i suggest trying to find another way to pay for it. hope this helps!!

Answer 9

maybe you should pretend to not want to be it and then when you go to college take whatever courses are necessary bc your mom cant stop you then

Answer 10

well when you are out of collage you can make your own desitions then and your mom cant control you like you are a teenager because when your out of collage you are an adult that can make your own decitons.
good luck