Should I keep helping my ex with her car note.She is jobless and has 4 kids.None of them are mine.She does get government assistance.I just feel so bad leaving her with all the house bills and car note.She gets about 800 dollars a month.The girl in question is 34 years old.She kinda has a bad background so its been hard for her to find a job.I feel so bad leaving her like that even though its her house. I'm 24 and trying to start my own life but I keep worrying about her.I'm in the process of moving on my own but I'm thinking about postponing it to help her.Any advice would help.
2007-09-15 10:32:02 · 7 answers · asked by I got the answer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not your responsibility. If she has a bad background, that's her own fault, and four kids with different daddies... that's her own fault, too... and if she's getting government assistance than she IS getting help from you, in the form of all the taxes that come out of your paycheck that our government gives to welfare people.
You have a life of your own with your own bills to pay. Quit worrying about her, it's the life she made for herself.
2007-09-15 10:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dee Marie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, aren't you a nice young man. But RUN HONEY RUN before you become baby daddy #5.
Some people are beyond help, she may be one. 1 maybe even 2 kids out of wedlock OK a screw up - oops but 4???
She needs to quit trying to trap a man to take care of her. If she really wants to do better she should get off her back, keep her knees together and get on her feet and get a job while those kids are in school.
2007-09-15 20:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tina B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know people that have more kids than that and still work for a living and pay their own bills. Suggest she do the same and if you ever pay for a car, make sure you own it and are the only one that drives it.
2007-09-15 17:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look... she did this to herself.
She has 4 kids by 4 different fathers? She needs to go to court and file for child support for these kids. She needs to find even a part-time job to help cover her own expenses.
GET OUT!
You are trying to extricate yourself from a bad relationship.
Taper off your "support" to her and move on... and give thanks that she can't get into you for child support.
Next time, look around before hooking up.
2007-09-15 18:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she's 34 and ur 24 and she's playing u like a banjo. get rid of her fast and make sure she can't find u after u move. u'll find someone ur age that will appriciate ur kindness and return it to u too.
2007-09-15 18:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is nice of you to think like this, but you have your own life. dont make babies with girls unless you are stable and in a committed marriage. see what happens? what are you doing with some person like this anyway? move on.
2007-09-15 17:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your going to have to let go. shes old enough and has got herself in the spot she is in.she could sell her house and get something cheaper or get a room mate.
2007-09-15 23:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋