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Would you continue to date someone who you have feelings for, when you know (say you can tell the future) that his/her family would have a problem with you not being of 'their own kind'? Would you continue to date him/her when you know they wont be mentally and emotionally strong enough to handle family, peer and societal pressure, when there comes a need for that. You can share your experiences, if you have any interesting ones. NO RACIST COMMENTS please.

2007-09-15 10:25:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Other - Cultures & Groups

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Yes, I would continue to date the person I like and can see myself with regardless of his race. If his family and others have an issue with it then it is their problem, not mines or his. You can't live your life by following other people ideologies and views. There is no such thing as "their own kind" we are all human beings with slight tedious difference. Be happy and grow your relationship, remember ignorance comes from everywhere including family.

2007-09-15 14:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 1 0

I haven't dated outside of my race, but my cousin did. Apparently there were several members of my family who swore he was only interested in her to get a green card (he's from Mexico). Well, 28 years later, they're still happily married with two kids. 99% of my family has come to accept him, and for the rest... who cares? If the only problem the family has is that they're not of the same race, then I would pay them no mind. If the family has legitimate concerns with how I'm being treated that has nothing to do with race, that's the only way I'd pay attention. Just because someone is family doesn't always make them right.

2007-09-15 10:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by LolaC☼ 4 · 1 1

If he is not strong enough to know that we are all connected and skin color is only on the surface, then you might have problems if you continue to date him. When I first started dating my boyfriend, his grandmother is racist and his mother is racist, in fact he grew up racist. But he went into the Navy at an early age and traveled all over the world. He learned that we are all connected and skin color does not matter. It's what's inside that counts. He pretty much told his mother off and he introduced me to his grandmother. She had a new outlook at people of color and she realizes that it's what is inside that counts and she is 94 years old. His mother is 70 and she don't make bad comments about me to him but I'm sure she calls me a "ni****" every chance she gets behind his back because she says things like "rag head" and all "Mexicans steal" but he tells her off everytime he hears her make racist statements. I thinks she is mad at me because he has a new outlook at life and people. Smile....

2007-09-17 08:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit Dancer 5 · 0 0

One thing that's true that I have noticed is that the black community is definitely more accepting than the white community when it comes to interracial dating, I've also had alot of other people agree with me on that. I think it's because more of the white majority are stuck in their beliefs and are afraid of standing on their own against ignorant beliefs. I've also noticed that dating interracially it seems that there's always going to be one or two in their family who doesn't agree with it, and it's not always a possibility for us to be able to change their minds. I think the issue lies more with where your partner stands, if your partner isn't concerned about what other people think, stand beside your partner and let others know that they aren't going to take your happiness

2007-09-15 18:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 2 0

"my own kind" are people, two eyes two ears one nose and a mouth. Standing on two feet. I wouldnt have anything to do with my family if they were racist period. Even if i loved another race or not. I would not accept racism around me. I have an open mind, and I keep company with the same. Anything less I wont associate with. Small minded racists are ignorant and uneducated.

2007-09-15 10:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

Well I am white and have dated a Hispanic guy, Asian, and black. (Currently married to a black man). I had no problem. They were all very sweet so I knew there parents would have no problem with me. And even if they did, I would still go out with them. People usually stop hating for stupid reasons once they know you are there for the long haul.

2007-09-15 10:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by Orange County is great! 2 · 2 0

Native American White Women SE Asian Women (i don't know the breakdown among asian like thai, Filip ,ect.) East Asian Women Arab Women Indian Women From India Hispanic Women

2016-05-20 05:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

I dated outside my race alot especially with hispanics... when I dated my x and met his family they never had any problems with me but if they did I would still continue to date him weather they liked me or not =]

2007-09-15 10:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by gone 3 · 1 0

I am Asian married to a really nice guy. He is white. His family were not so thrilled when he married me but my husband stood by my side all the time. I did not have to do or say anything to please my in-laws because my husband gave them a complete picture of who I am. I really did not care too much because we live thousands of miles away from them.

2007-09-15 11:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Belen 5 · 1 0

I am black and my husband is Puerto-Rican and his mother hates me because I am black. The funny thing is she has another son who is married to a black women and she disowned him and now my husband is married to me, but she is not disowning him. She told me that she does not consider me to be black because I am mixed. That's really screwed up.. I ignore that old lady because she has nothing to do with me and my husband. When you are that prejudice you make yourself sick.. Everything that she hates is happening in her family. She hates blacks she has two blacks in the family actually more. SHe hates gays and her two other sons are gay one looks like a man and the other one looks like a women with a beard. So there is no point in hating certain groups of people because they will end up in your family.

2007-09-15 10:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 2 0

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