well, I'm not really shy, I just don't talk that much because I don't have a lot of confidence sometimes. any tips on how to become more confident?
2007-09-15 10:21:44 · 4 answers · asked by 21dahlly 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Tips For Overcoming Shyness
Check out the tips in the article on self consciousness, particularly the ones to do with where you focus your attention.
* Practise becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
* Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
* Practise using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
* Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
The exercises and techniques contained within the Self Confidence Course should help with shyness because they focus on what to do to feel confident, rather than how to avoid feeling shy.
2007-09-15 15:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by pcgamer1987 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you find interesting? Join groups that share that interest with you. You'll have something to talk about. Join groups at church, or do volunteer work. Volunteers are usually welcomed with open arms, trained to perform a few tasks, and as you will find, the more you know how to do, the more confident you become. Also, think of what you have already accomplished. Not everyone does all of that. We all have different talents and interests, so we're not all the same, but many times we complement each other. Enjoy life, take an interest, and remember, life is a process of change. You're special, you're alive, and you're not only interested, but interesting in some way.
2007-09-15 10:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by jelesais2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I had an answer. I'm nearly 40 and still very shy. The folks at work don't think so, because I'm a very good actress :(
2007-09-15 10:31:19 · answer #3 · answered by kelly t 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a job where you are forced to alot of new people every day.
2007-09-15 10:29:59 · answer #4 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being self confident and relevent practice
2007-09-15 22:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by hari prasad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋