my husband lied to me about eating lunch with his 2 female co workers for three months?

Question

he said i am too jealous is why he lied but this is not the first time he puts this back on me why he does it

Answer 1

Sounds like it's because you are too jealous

He's with two women so I really doubt he's cheating. I think that you need to not be so jealous and maybe he'd actualy consider telling you things.

Answer 2

That's something you need to discuss with him, or a counselor. Jealous or not now you know what happened so not only are you probably jealous (if that is your nature) but upset that he hid it and/or lied for all this time. NOT a positive thing in a marriage.

Perhaps counseling is in order to help you not be jealous over things that don't matter, and him not to lie or hide things because he fears your reaction (esp if you are likely to learn the truth down the road anyway, and the situation ends up worse than if he'd been honest from the get-go)

Answer 3

Doesn't mean he's cheating. But he doesn't want to tell you. Maybe he doesn't want any attitude from you. Maybe he doesn't want an argument. If you are the jealous type maybe he just doesn't want the hassle. Co-workers eat lunch all the time. Don't be so controlling and jealous.

Answer 4

Oh come on, women also have a free will and know a dead end when they see one. Just because he is eating lunch with them doesn't mean they are letting it go any further, or to be more exact, taking it any further. He's married. That alone puts most women off, at least in my experience it certainly does.
No, I guess you still don't understand. That's why he felt it was better you didn't know.

Answer 5

He means you are to jealous to be able tell you that he had a nice lunch with 2 female co-workers. Ever think he may be right? Are you too jealous? do you constantly disbelieve him?do you check on everything he does? do you follow him?

Answer 6

I had an experience with this problem. I was one of the female co-workers heading out to lunch with the male colleague. One time, his wife called, he asked us to be quiet. His wife heard our giggles in the back ground about a dog story. He got in big trouble, and had to drive us back to the office. We were very upset to be driven back to the office without lunch. We heard his wife was a very jealousy type of lady, and we finally had experienced her power. We were just heading out to have some Chinese lunch special down the street from the office. He told us he was in trouble with his wife for a week because of the giggle. In general, this is a very embarrassing fact for him, this male colleague always had to avoid letting his wife to know. He had to lie to her to avoid explosive relationship strain. Of course, in the office now, we always go out to lunch if he asked. And, we always make sure he is clear off his radar.

Answer 7

Maybe you are too jealous.
Look, it's just lunch with 2 co-workers, Whoop-de-do.
Had he had an affair with one or both, then you'd have every right to be angry.

Answer 8

Because he refuses to admit any wrong doing and will always place the blame on you. It's just easier that way.

Answer 9

because he's probs hiding something and him saying your jealous is just an excuse ,men are very clever at twisting things around to suit themselves and trying to,make you feel insecure ,take no notice it will only drag you down. good luck

Answer 10

don't you love their ability to flip things back on you.

he messes up, but makes you feel like you are to blame.

the problem that you have is that he lied about it. if it was innocent then why lie. it is just making you feel like it was much more than just lunch.