Why do people not like me?

Question

what makes someone attracted to someone else. i'm in high school, no one talks to me, i feel so out of place at school. i'm an outsider.
what can i do to change these facts?

Answer 1

i love you

Answer 2

First concentrate on being happy! If you live your own life with a focus on your goals and dreams, you will find that people will relate to you on those levels. Even though they may not share the same ideas, they will see the relationship. Also, high school can be very unforgiving, and seeking approval from people that are all pretty insecure can be difficult if not impossible to attain. The cynic in me notices that most of the more popular people in high school are either very attractive, or their parents have money, so dont place to much stock in others opinions. A few things you can do to help get the positive you in other people's faces is to look at what groups or acitivities the school offers that you would be interested in. More often thatn not, it is a lack of social contact, rather than a personality that causes a person to feel like an outsider. Be yourself and find your own contentment and you will find when you seek less approval from others you will reiceive more of it.

Answer 3

Of course you know that "everyone" isn't going to like you, but I wonder if you've given anyone a chance?
Attitude truly is everything, & if you feel good from the inside out, people see & feel this. People YOU would like to know--just forget the rest. Your countenance is essential, & the more you feel no one likes you, & that you're an outsider, the more you'll reflect a negative attitude.
I can have problems up to the ceiling--that is, reasons to feel less than "attractive," but when I go out where I'll be with people, I tune into my smiling self, (not a mask, not pretending), & strangers are attracted to me everywhere I go. What they see & feel, is my positive side.
I would NEVER advocate "rushing in" to make friends. That would be transparent. But, you can smile, say hello, or even comment on something that could spark a connection.
The other day I saw a very depressed looking woman with a plant in her shopping cart. I smiled & asked: "Is that a yucca cane?" From there, we had a nice little chat, & I left her smiling. (This wasn't to make friends, just an example of the impact you can have if you "recognize" the other.)
What I mean, is that you need to "let go" of your negative feelings, not be intrusive--but simply YOU, being you. Keep your chin up, literally--but not too high! Good luck...

Answer 4

Back when I was four, I went to this camp/school program while my mom went to college. The whole time I was there, I NEVER spoke to anyone. The counselors thought it was because my dad abused me; but he didn't, I was just extremely shy. Because I never associated with people, I had no friends. I am a sophomore at high school now, and although I am still a little shy, I have tons of friends and make new ones every day. Try joining a club or group, that is the easiest way to meet new people and befriend them. If you don't want to do that, just be funny, polite, and good-natured. People will be lining up to make friends with you.

Answer 5

Just live your life and be in it.
Worry won't make it go away, it will only attract it to you.
Be sure about who you are, you are unique, everybody is, the problem begins when one wants to be "like" some else.
Don't even entertain the idea of being someones "clone".
This will have an effect you will not enjoy later on.
Be who you know you are, and if you don't know who you are then find out.
Be confident in your own skin,
Outsiders are actually the cool ones, as they are self-sufficient usually.
You probably feel alone more than anything,
one must learn to fill this void themselves, you cannot go looking outside of yourself for validity or attachment.
People are attracted to the energy that is you, love brings love, insecurity brings insecurity, lose of hope brings lose of hope, dislike of self brings dislike of self. If you think you are alone, you will be, and vica versa, that is the universal law.
You are that creative, that is why I say know who you are.
Know who you are, be at peace in that, everything else, all concern will slip away, if you allow it to.
Blessings to you and may your wounds bring wisdom.

Answer 6

Do you see yourself as pretty, attracting etc.? If not, then change the way you think about yourself.Most of the times we attract what we don't like. Furthermore, have you tried to make friends? People often avoid talking to a person they don't know. This is even truer as far as teenagers are considered. They have their own friends and they don't bother talking to someone new, because they don't really need him (quite selfish, I know). Be the one to make the first move to get to know any of your classmates and try not to be disappointed if you don't get a positive feedback. There are many people that will come to know and love you as person. You just have to believe in yourself and avoid making negative thoughts. Good luck!

Answer 7

Even if people like you, you would never be able to see it until you conquered all your demons.

Sometimes, all you have to do is reached out to others in a positive way in order to feel acceptance.

Basically, everyone has two sides their character: a dark one and illuminating one. It's your responsibility to decide for yourself which one you want to be and works towards that with a clear-headed and positive mind and approach.

In truth, I really don't hate anyone, because I recognize their good qualities. If I try to the best of my ability to be the nicest person that I can be in the way I treat and approach others, then it is enough that I like myself.

Answer 8

You'd be suprised how much a good clothing style can change the way someone looks. I dont know how you dress, but if you dont already, go out and buy some nice clothes, and always try your best to look good.

And of course try to be as social as possible. Getting people to talk to you will be hard if youre not willing to do the same.

Answer 9

Have you ever tried to fit in?
I know then that you would be trying to be someone you're not.
But if you're like anyone else then maybe they'll give you the time of day and talk to you and then after a while you will be able to show who u really are and they'll see what a cool person you are

Answer 10

Embrace who you are! Acceptance is key, once you have that down pat, you are good to go! Have a positive attitude and try to be optimistic. Be social! Heck, I walk down the halls of my school smiling at randoms, but it's probably because I'm laughing inside my head about a joke or something. People are like, forgetting how to be sincere and how to be friendly. Many girls much younger than me even in my school walk in like they own it.. when really they are being laughed at for something that they aren't. I say, just try to make friends in your classes, eat lunch with them, eventually you guys will hang out and a whole new network of friends will be available to you!

Love yourself enough to accept who you are, and let others love you for who you are. Rather than people loving you for someone who you truly aren't. Good luck!

Answer 11

I think that you should accept yourself for who you are and love yourself.and look at the qualities you posess as a person. and things you like to do and find people who share those same things.for example your hobbies, talents,gifts, everybody has them. and also high school can be tough but dont conform to what someone are society says you should be. Be yourself. and learn to get to know who you are try to join a sport basket ball. track is a good sport it builds endurance.Theres lots of things you can do.