my ex broke it off with me, but he has been insistent since the split that we remain friends. I have made a new life for myself and am having a baby with my new partner. When my ex found out that i am having a baby, he was furious. Guys, why was he furious and why is he insisiting that we stay friends??
2007-09-15 08:49:16 · 34 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because he was hoping to keep you on the back burner as a spare in case he didn't succeed in finding someone else. The heck w/ him.
2007-09-15 08:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by UNITool 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can understand wanting to remain friends as this is pretty mature thing to do. But to be furious because you are with child certainly doesn't sound like much of a friend to me. Sounds more like he wanted to remain friends and if things didn't work out that he could always call old reliable girlfriend and that she would always be there for him. Have an adult conversation with this fella and let him know that nobody can have too many friends and if that is all he wants that you'd love to be his friend (if indeed this is what you want). Or you may have to tell him to hit the road if he is going to be jealous because you're going to have another man's child. Regardless of how it turns out I hope that you have a successful birth and a loving child. Best of luck.
2007-09-15 08:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Loli, take this from and ex-player of the field. When he broke it off with you but still wanted to be friends was because he wanted to still play the field and have you in his back pocket. Meaning He probably knew you were a good girl and he could someday possibly see himself back with you. So he wanted to see other women and broke up with you. You were his backup incase he didn't come across anyone he thought was a better match than you. Now that you are having a child with another man he feels all is lost because he thought you would always be there waiting for him. The thing he forgot was time waits on no one. Now if the father of your child is good to you stick with him, because this other guy if you ever took him back would always resent you for having a kid with the other man. I met a beautiful woman and Married her that's why I left the game and glade I did. Hope this helps you.
2007-09-15 09:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have difficulty understanding this too. Why do divorced couples without children maintain close ties? It sounds nice and warm-fuzzy, but pointless. I would rather be polite but get on with my own life. I tried to maintain a good relationship with an ex-wife but it was difficult and emotionally taxing. My friends got sick and tired of her constant complaining (about me) and eventually broke off their friendship with her. I seemed to be much happier when the EX was not around. That's the bottom line - what is more satisfying for you?
2007-09-15 09:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by GENE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men want to be able to do anything they want but refuse to accept an ex from having a life. It's being possessive and selfish. And especially controling. He has now lost control and is resentful that you have finally moved on. He is most certainly the guy you did well in losing. I am happy you now have a future.
2007-09-15 08:55:53 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's not a guy thing, that's a selfish p r i c k thing where he thought for some unfathomable reason you would keep yourself on a shelf to be at his disposal forever....I've experienced the same dynamic from an ex. She was unreal. Do yourself a favor: don't even waste time trying to determine "why" because it's of no consequence...just be glad you've moved beyond that aggravation.
2007-09-15 09:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex wants to control your life, i bet your glad your not with him. Put your foot down and tell him you can stay friends but you have a new life with your partner and a baby on the way, so he has got to accept that.
2007-09-15 08:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very jelous and his jelousy mad him furious. He rather it be his kid. I think you should break the friendship down. I mean remain somwhat friends, but don't get to close to him. He may even reject your child since he doesn't like the idea of you carrying somone else's kid. To keep your self and your kid safe stay away from him for a while.
2007-09-15 09:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he feels better about himself with your aproval , and the baby threatens his manhood . he is selfish and needs to think about what he can do to be a true friend like be supportive , change diapers , babysit for an hour or two to give you some rest . a friend thinks only about how much they care about that person not what that person makes them . he is in an unhealthy state of careing , kinda trade and barter , not simply giving . he needs courage within himself and to not have you leave yourself wide open to his nonsense , the last thing you need is more stress , not a grown baby
2007-09-15 08:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by david m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's upset because you've moved on and he hasn't. That part of your life is over. Forget this guy, have a good life with your new partner and baby.
2007-09-18 06:18:07 · answer #10 · answered by Silver Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋