Am i really gay, bisexual, or just confused?

Question

Alright, I'm 14, and i've currently been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months now. But only one of my friends know, and my former teacher that i trust knows, who are both bisexual. I realllly love her. And i dont know what i would do without her. But my problem is, i still feel attracted to other guys, thinkin that they're hot and what-not. So am i bisexual? Or am i confused? Sorry if you find this a pointless post, i kinda do now that i've written this. So yeah, sorry again.

Answer 1

Maybe you really love her as a friend and a human being but you're not sexually attracted to her. Does that sound right? Or are you attracted to your girlfriend the way you are to other guys? If you really are attracted to both sexes than you're probably bisexual but you're still young so maybe you're still figuring out how you feel. Don't stress about it though. Just be yourself. It doesn't really matter if you like girls or guys or both. Don't overthink it, just follow your feelings.

Answer 2

At your age, i'd be cautious....your hormones still haven't finished their job yet. Being gay is not a choice, believe me, it's not nice to be looked down to, insulted and treated as a third grade citizen because your sexual orientation is different.
I cannot tell you to go an experiment either, it's too risky. So, give it some time, let your body help you decide, eventually, you'll wake up one day with this dull feeling in your chest that you just have to let it out....
Understand that questioning your sexual orientation does not make you automatically gay — many who question their sexual orientation come to the conclusion that they are straight. On the other hand, you may realize you are gay or bisexual.
Seek out gay people or others who are questioning and talk to them. Attend support groups in your community (you can often do this anonymously). Some communities even have non-profit organizations dedicated to helping questioning young people. Look online for resources. Also, you can check out planetout.com and several other online resources for message boards, chat rooms, and advice pages. These are all anonymous.
Seek help if you are in school, talk to a school counselor, whose job it is to help you through issues. These counselors typically are not required to tell your parents what you tell them unless you are a danger to yourself or others, but if you are uncomfortable, ask them not to share the conversation with anyone. This might not be a good idea if you go to a conserative religious school, if your counselor decides that it's more important for you to conform to a theological prohibition against homosexuality than it is for you to find the truth about yourself, or for you to be happy.
If you are experiencing a conflict between your religious beliefs and the possibility that you might not be exclusively heterosexual, consider the following:
Many religions make a distinction between inclination and action. In the same way that it's OK to get angry but not OK to hurt people when you are angry, some religions consider it to be OK to have a homosexual inclination, as long as one does not commit homosexual acts.
If you realize that you are gay, lesbian, or bisexual and talk to friends and family members if and when you are ready and feel comfortable and safe. They can be great supports, and many people who you might think would be not supportive might be very understanding.

AND...Never do anything that doesn't feel right or that you really don't want to do "just to find out."

Answer 3

You are obviously in doubt right now. It happens to be pretty normal to have homosexual fantasies. Almost everybody does at one time or another whether thy admit it or not. It most definitely does not mean that you are gay. BUT if down the road you find out that you are then so what? I don't think so though. I have had those same fantasies and read quite a bit about it but I am not nor have I ever been homosexual. Try not to read so much into it.

Answer 4

I tried having a girlfriend to see if I was gay or not. My hormones were all over the place at the time that I was doing that. Eventually at the age of 15 or 16, I found out that I was gay. I don't know about you and your situation, but I would not make a decision about my sexuality at the age of 14 if I were you.

Answer 5

Ive the same problem of you but I like more boys. I'm the age of almost 16. Yesterday at high school i have my first sexual experience with my best friend, its a boy, and I never had a girlfriend but I think if you see a boy and you say its hot you say it for sometime. Tell the problem to the person you trust most he or she will understand. I tell my secrete to my two best friends and they are the only knows. So think it twice and make a decision

Answer 6

You're 14. Everyone that's past 14 now, realizes that that is an answer in itself. Don't rush into labeling yourself as anything. Your mind and body are not even to the point of agreeing with each other, yet. But, things will get less confusing.

Answer 7

lol

You're probably bi, but don't get hung up on labeling yourself unless you really feel lost without a label. You're doing what feels right for you, which is evaluating who you're attracted to on a case-by-case basis, not based on some ridiculous thing like whether it has a penis or a vagina.

=D Just keep doing what you're doing.

Answer 8

lol your 14 thats very common 2 be curious. I think you are confused @ this point but if you act on your feelings for guys that would make u very bi-sexual

Answer 9

Don't worry about a label. Just ask yourself do I love my gf enough to be faithful to her, or are these men so irresistible that I must leave her to see if I like them more.

Answer 10

at 14 its more then likely your just comparing yourself to other guys. at that age both girls and boys do it. thats normal and i wouldn't give it a second thought.