she died of cancer two weeks after her 66 birthday. it was terrible just waching her die while i sat there. i could't do anything for her. we were best friends. my saturdays were spent with her. i feel so lonley saturdays. i just want to talk to her and i can't. i have a great supporting family, but the emptiness of her presence is so overwhelming.
2007-09-15 08:34:20 · 10 answers · asked by yvette 1 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Injuries
You need to get out of the house and go volunteer with an agency that provides for the less fortunate. Your dwelling on it to much, plus get some exercise and get some good seritonin going. Your depressed. Clean out your colon and take care of yourself.
2007-09-15 08:38:27 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will go away believe me. My mom and I were very close and it took me quite awhile for the pain to subside (she was 62 and had a stroke and I found her-- she died 3 days later).
The question you have to ask yourself is -- Would MOM want me to keep feeling this way or to move on ? I know what my mom would say and probably yours would do the same.
BTW I know that anytime I feel really stressed ( I mean really stressed) I can talk with my mom and she answers... (no not by talking to me verbally) but a response will be given like -- a song she loved will play on the radio, I will notice a flower she was fond of as I am walking down a street I walked down a 1000 times before, I will begin to hear a word repeated that she used frequently ....
Best of luck
2007-09-15 08:44:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. I know the pain from losing someone so special to you can be horrific. I had the same experience with my grandmother's passing. Talking to your family or a close friend or minister could help. If you feel that the feelings of sadness or loneliness are too overwhelming, seek grief counseling. Cancer is a terrible, dreaded disease and the only thing that helped me through hers was the fact that she is no longer in any pain. I had to focus on what good fun we had and that someday I will see her in heaven. Take care.
2007-09-15 12:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mom died a little over 2 years ago too, so I can really relate to how you feel and how much you miss her. Hearing a song on the radio that reminds me of her or when my or her birthday rolls around, it's still really hard. She was 82, and it was just her time, but it was still really hard to let her go.
When Mom had been gone about a year, my sister and I decided to spend that weekend together and go away for a couple of days. We cried,. we laughed, we talked about the good memories we have of her, and I have to say it really helped. And we have continued to do that this year, on the same weekend. And this year, there were fewer tears, and more laughter, and lots of fun memories about Mom.
Try to do things to celebrate her life. Maybe have a family get-together on her birthday. Look over the old family scrapbooks, enjoy the good memories of her and know she is still there looking out for you .
2007-09-15 08:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by rose_32008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will always feel a loss and you will always miss her. The pain will become less as you get older, and your life becomes full. The love for her will not become less, it will grow, even though she is not physically with you. Saturdays maybe you can go to the hospital and volunteer in the cancer ward, find things going on to raise money for people with cancer, your mom might like that. You can talk to her, she is always with you, always... She is not sad, she knows that she has a smart daughter, with passion and she is counting on you to follow through with her dream for you... you know what that is. She knows that you are strong and you will have a good life as long as you make something out of yourself like she wanted you to, she wants you to remember her, but she wants you to be happy most of all. Love is energy, and energy never dies. Her energy is in you and the rest of your family. Talk to her, she will listen. She will be with you at every great moment in your life. If you need to talk, message me.
2007-09-15 08:44:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm terribly sorry...the loss of your best friend and mother is very difficult to handle i know. my mom died of cancer 10 years ago this october too and it took me much more than two years to stop the hurting. i would talk to my dad about how i felt everytime i felt down..i told myself she wasn't suffering anymore. i'd reflect on what a great mother she was and how she would love to see me grow up happy and mature..i'd occupy myself (i was busy trying to survive adolescence anyway)
healing is a slow but sure process..
but if you feel you can't take it anymore, do seek help from a counsellor or someone you look up to as a mother figure or someone close enough.
hope you get through this difficult period...take care
2007-09-15 08:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by syraphine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're fidgeting with hearth, meaning you ultimately gets burned. enable's say you fairly pass by way of with this stupid theory. while you're out, your mom wakes up from her nap and sees you and her automobile are long previous. except she's attentive to your having finished it interior the previous, she calls the police. The law enforcement officers, now attentive to your transgression, at the instant are actively searching for you and her automobile. If a cop sees you, he will pull you over. (He may additionally runs the plates as a ordinary examine, and if something's amiss, he will pull you over.) you're toast. could you get pulled over, honesty will artwork on your choose, yet basically so a strategies. you nonetheless would have broken numerous regulations: -utilising without license; -no longer providing the required archives (license, registration, coverage card); -offering a faux call (assuming you attempt to bypass your self off as your older brother); -identity robbery some attainable effects, if caught and found accountable: -juvenile incarceration; -limit from identifying to purchase your license till you're eighteen years of age (this might recommend that, whether you keep away from incarceration, you will possibly see your classmates get their facilitates and licenses at sixteen and seventeen, and you're caught having to be pushed around till you're eighteen. it might make you a pariah between your classmates.) -attainable can charge of grand robbery automobile, a legal; -identity robbery, a legal. i'm sufficiently previous to be your father. in case you have been my son and did that, you will possibly finally end up on the "organization end" of my discipline, and specific no longer see ANY help on your protection, as you have admitted doing on better than one previous social accumulating. there's no way i'm able to condone such an action. Your maximum suitable bets are to have your motherchronic you, or your buddy's determine to %. you up.
2016-10-20 01:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a world beyond this, you are definitely causing great pain to your Mom now. In her memory please take up a mission, whatever insignificant it may be, and pursue it. In no time you will get back your composure. Why don't you begin by taking care of few weak street dogs?
2007-09-15 08:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jitesh B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider discussing with a good homeopath or go for EFT (www.emofree.com). Bach Flowers are another good choice for you. Such unresolved grief can cause PTSD.
2007-09-15 08:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to her in spirit not death because life begins in spirit not body.You should remember your time spend her on this before she past away.That is what life is all about on this earth.Not your physical human being of body.
2007-09-15 08:42:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jewel E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋