Geordie is my Ex.
He is three years older than me.
He left three days before I found out I was pregnant.
And so, my sister had to help me give birth.
He get's drunk alot and says bad language without thinking around young kids.
I told him no, and that he had to come here previous times.
This time he wants to see his kids, at his house.Promising that he'll be careful.
He swore on his father's grave too. But I'm still not sure.
Can I trust the man I once loved? Or should I tell him no?
2007-09-15 07:56:39 · 9 answers · asked by London 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
may be you shouldn't trust him,he left you when you pregnant ,and don't stop drinking,he'd never get the responsibility to be a father,so he should see the kids in the presence of you not himself alone or even with his father,take care of your kids,God bless
2007-09-15 08:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that's really up to you, but I would ask if you could go over there w/ them and just kind of observe and stay out of the way and see what happens from there. If he says he is not goin to do anything bad he souldn't have a probelm w/ you coming w/ the first time, good luck but I would agree taht he should be able to see his kids just maybe not alone?
2007-09-15 08:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by Luckyboo8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he walked out on you when you told him you were pregnant then it's evident he didn't want a child, he wasn't responsible enough to accept the fact that he was going to be a father. So what the heck changed, if he wasn't man enough then obviously he aint man enough now or responsible enough to take care of your child. if he wants to see the kid let him com to your house don't let him leave your house with your child. He's a drunkie for crying out loud
2007-09-15 08:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that if he wants to see them to come over to your house and you all will spend time with them together. And if he does well you will consider letting them have a day sometime soon. If he refuses then oh well. Ask yourself these questions yeah he may swear and stuff but will he actually put your kids into physical harm?
2007-09-15 08:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it legally. He does have rights, however, if you go through the courts, they will set guidelines to ensure the safety of the children. His visits may have to be supervised. Hearing that he wants to see the kids tells me that they are in his heart. However, the children's best interest is the top priority, so go through the proper channels.
2007-09-15 08:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the courts say he can have them you have to do it or go to jail.. but if its just up to you two how it goes you have to try to trust him once if he can prove to you before hand that he can take care of them the way they should be.. maybe have him come over to your house and see how it goes there the first few times.. and let him watch and take care of them not you and just see how he does things.. but stay out of the way.. good luck
2007-09-15 08:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go over there with your kids and try talking to him.
Go see a counselor with him.
Beat a police man up. Oh wait...
2007-09-15 08:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no way honey ur foul mouth arond these young kids is not exceptalbe thats why we problably broke up, and then say forget bout it!
hope it works out well :0
2007-09-15 08:01:41 · answer #8 · answered by Ruthyrae 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old are the kids? if their old enough to use the phone if anything happens then try it. if not then i keep them at home.
2007-09-15 08:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by george 2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋