help me ok so i dont know why i feel more comfortable like being like really friendly with guys than with girls i am a really sexual person and by that i mean sexually active like i gave oral sex to my friend(boy) but i dont know i just dont wanna be like have a reputation for being sluty or something like that because i like girls and all that but i dont know am i bisexual ? or what? and why like i cant have a frienship with a guy beacuse u know there is like toucing not sexually but like pushing or sometimes we just get too close thats that make me gay or bi/.?
2007-09-15 05:53:06 · 7 answers · asked by dfghhjfdhsgbw 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
sound gay to me
2007-09-22 08:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, 'being gay' is something that terrifies you, if that is even the case. I've a coupla straight friends (and yes, I truly mean straight) that I've fooled around with. One guy who was eternally horny (he even referred to having a sex 'addiction' at one point) just really loved gettin' off and didn't mind the way that I did it for him. Another friend just wanted to see if it was something that he really did enjoy, or if it was just a fantasy thing - only to be enjoyed in the mind.
Basically, what I'm trying to say is don't be so quick to label and define yourself. At least if you do 'choose' a label or decide on a definition of 'who' you are, sexually, don't make it this all condemning, irreversible, absolute truth. And this includes 'sluty.' Seriously look at the things you do - if someone else did the same things would you call them slutty? If you would call the person slutty, then you are calling yourself slutty.
Also - If you're worried about being called slutty, shouldn't you be worried about being HIV positive, too? Or contracting HPV? Straight or Gay - It doesn't matter when it comes to STDs. Be smart and play safe, EVERY TIME!!!
2007-09-20 17:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by arows1faith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, if your giving your friend oral sex, and you like doing this, you are gay!! You may be bi, but i get the feeling that you are gay!! Good luck and play safe!! Oh, by the way... I could be your friend!!!!
2007-09-20 04:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel more comfortable being really friendly with guys then that says you are at least leaning toward being gay.
If you offer oral sex to a guy but not to gals, that leans the scale a little further to the gay side.
Like girls? as in want to date and have sex with them?
If yes, that tips it a bit toward the straight side.
If no, that keeps it moving to the gay side.
So, all things considered you might be straight with gay tendencies or gay with some straight tendencies. But it matters not really. As long as you date people you like and who like you then all will be fine regardless of their gender.
As far as sex goes, try to keep it to really close friends and not just anyone who happens along. To do it with many people is slutty, to do it selectively is okay.
And in terms of hanging out with guys and it getting a little too touchy-feely, try to control your urges until you know whether the person you are with is inclined to like it or not. Sure, when hanging with the guys, a little horse play or rough-and-tumble activity is fine but if you take it beyond that you need to be sure it is okay with the guy. Put in plain english - it is fine for us to wrestle or play twister or the like but until I say it is okay to feel my penis or suck it, keep your sexual urges under control! To do otherwise might turn me off.
2007-09-18 20:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you are probably too young to know for sure if you are str8, bi, or gay. Just let's say-you are you..and let's stop trying to stick a label on you--okay...take it from somebody that knows....
2007-09-21 19:51:38 · answer #5 · answered by John D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are gay. Accept it and deal with it.
2007-09-15 17:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by Tanya B VT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read your own question. You've already answered.
2007-09-23 10:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by andyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋