Can alcoholic be the reason to keep on drinking whenever he/she wants to, even his/her family keeps telling them to stop doing so. Is it something these people cannot control going out and getting drunk or they are doing so just because addiction drives them toward the path? (Maybe that is the reason why people call it as addiction)
But does being an alcoholic explain their behavior not listening to anyone and keep on drinking as much as he/she wanna do?
I believe that everyone has got to be responsible for whatever they do, no matter conditions they are in. Othewise people can make excuses because of their addictions even after killing somebody........please share your opinion with me.
2007-09-15 04:54:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Alcoholism is a very powerful thing - and the sad part about it is that unless the Alcoholic sees and realizes there is a problem, there is nothing you can do about it.
The twist to it all is that they drink to feel good, to remember, to forget...for whatever reason they do - and if you confront them about it, then now have a whole 'nuther reason to drink.
You are correct in that people SHOULD be responsible for themselves and their actions - but why would they want to be? All they have to do is point a finger at someone or something else and that gives them (in their own mind) the excuse to do whatever they choose - no matter how destructive that behavior is.
My father is an alcoholic - I have tried talking, begging, crying, yelling, threatening and so on - and all it does is cause him to say "you think I'm a bad father"...and he heads for the bottle. I simply told him "Fine, this is your choice - and you will live with the consequences". As much as it kills me inside, when he gets drunk and falls down in his house, I leave him lay on the floor now - I no longer pick him up. If this is the life he has chosen, then so be it - but that doesn't mean that I have to continue to pick him up off the floor (literally) so that he can drink more because he now has another reason to drink...because he fell down.
2007-09-15 05:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcoholism is a disease, just like any other disease or sickness, being an alcoholic does not necessarily mean that a person is a bad person, like all diseases, people have to get help from their doctors. there are lots of help for people that has an addiction to drink, but that person has to make up their own mind to seek that help.it is a terrible situation for the family that lives with an alcoholic, it is like living with two different people, very Nice when they are not drinking, and abusive mentally, when they are drunk. i often thought that taking a video of them when they were drunk, and playing it back to them when they were sober ,would be a good idea.during my life i have lived with a person that was into drink in a big way, but thank god they realized that it was not good for them and they stopped. yes everyone is responsible for their actions, and should be made aware of the hurt they are causing.
2007-09-15 12:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by champagne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine was just put in jail because of drinking too much. This is his third time going. When he drinks, you can't talk to him and he is quick to fight. This person has been a a part of my life for three years now but, when he gets out, I don't plan on letting him come around. Some might say, "If you're truly his friend , you shouldn't turn your back on him." To that I say, I have two sons that I am trying to raise into real men. I would be going against the grain if I allow any type of behavior around them. I never felt comfortable going to parties, clubs, etc.
As for me: I'm simply tired of the @#$&!! I wish him all the best, but like you said, if alcohol means that much to a person, you friendship was never TRULY a priority to them anyway.Tough love hurts like a b%$**@!!!!! I love him but F%&% THAT. LIFES TO SHORT and gas is so high to be running back and forth to visitation. Again. For what, for him to tell me, Baby, I'm so sorry. This time, I'm sorry!
Signing out: MAD AS HELL.
2007-09-15 12:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by babygirgapeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcholic is a disease my parents both were. they actually died at the age 50 because of it.they need to get help before someone does get hurt.ill give you a great example of it. my daughters fiance went out one night drank to much on his way home he got into a accident that killed three boys and the fourth one is still in the hospital.he is now serving 51 years for this. he is so sorry for this and can not go back and change it. his sons grow up with out a daddy and this family lost there sons and nephew. it was sad for every one involved. once someone starts and cannot stop they need help and the family needs to go to alanon to teach them how to handle it.alot of people will make excuses for the alchoholic and try to defend them. by doing that it is only making it worse. trust me i lived it for years. some one is gonna get hurt.but if they donot want the help they will not do it. and they will lie to you saying they did so you will not bother them.
2007-09-15 12:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Fran J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your comments about ones own responsibility and behaviors.
2007-09-15 12:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
An addict is in fact mentally sick and can reform fully with his/her own will power.
2007-09-15 12:04:48 · answer #6 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋