Well the cats out of the bag after 23 years of marrage I've have always been there for him stood by him know matter what. I need surgery on both my knees and can hardly walk. He's told his mother the reason he's fallen out of love with me is because I've been in pain for 3 months and he's sick of it. Sick of watching me walk w/a cane or a walker it just built up and he fell out of love w/me. The only reason he wants me here is because he doesn't know how to pay the bills or do the billing for his business. What a poor excuse for a man. I've taken care of both his parents & him when he had surgery but now I'm broken so throw me away. I'm done crying over him and feeling sorry for myself I'm going to fix myself and take it from there. I trusted this man thought I married my best friend what a joke huh!
2007-09-15 03:18:05 · 16 answers · asked by Casey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow what a bad turn. Don't throw your baby out with the bathwater. He will learn one way or the other to pay the bills and have more if he divorces you.
You need to explain that you are still the same person he married and things, although maybe altered, don't change and neither should he. Keep a positive head on your shoulders and if these things turn for the worst, you'll be one step ahead because of all of what you've been through.
2007-09-15 03:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by CARL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going on hearsay from a third party. And, even if he did say these things, he may have been letting out some of his feelings at that moment, not what he truly feels. Please talk about this with him. Tell him you have heard that he has said these things and you can't understand why he would not stand by you when you need his support the most. Also, sometimes words get taken out of context and lost in translation; he may have really told her that sometimes he feels this way just so he could talk to someone about those feelings; knowing it word hurt you very much if he told you. Don't throw 23 years away over something that was told you; go to the source (your husband) and discuss it all. Only then will you know the truth. Those seem to be very harsh words intended to make you feel bad. I'd question their validity until I talked with him.
2007-09-15 10:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry that you have to go through this during your time of need, but don't worry because soon you'll be back to your old self again then you can turn the tables on him and stop helping with billing and the many other things you do. If what his mother says is true he's not a man he's a joke.
2007-09-15 15:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Castro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happened to "in sickness and in health"? Anyway if thats the way he wants to play,get your knees done ( I can sympthasize with you as I need both mine replaced) file for divorce and sue his a.s for everything youre legally entitled to so he will always remember exactly what he lost in not taking better care of you. His business bcomes 1/2yours in divorce court so he will remember you for a very long time. Some men just learn the simplest things the hard way. Good luck to you especially with your knees
2007-09-15 11:34:08 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG.....3 months of pain, and it's not even him in pain! that's all it took for him to fall out of love with you! Sweetie I don't believe it, there is another reason, I would not be surprised if there is another woman waiting for him around the corner. Now, take control of the situation, file for divorce and get everything you're entitled to. I hope you have family around you, parents and siblings that can support you through your trials. Good luck and don't give up!
2007-09-15 10:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes me sad, I really don't want it to happen to me. You are a stronger woman than I. Hell I would rather my husband die than not love me anymore. Good Luck!! Oh and let him how to figure out the bills, I work at a bank and it's so funny to see a man that has left his wife and hasn't a clue how to balance a check book.
2007-09-15 10:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by cherrie022 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is using you, turn the table on him. Use him long enough to have your surgery and then, on 2 NEW KNEES, and without a cane, walk away from him.
2007-09-15 10:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was never in love with you then. If after only three months, heck if ever, he decides he no longer loves you in a tough time..well, that wasn't love at all. I've been broken for 10 years, totally (in a sense) for 6, and she has not only stuck with me, she got mad when I told her she should find someone to be happy with. That's love.
Kick his butt out, let him fend for himself..and then when you are feeling better..go get the happiness your deserve. Easier said than done obviously, but it can be done. Waste no more tears..for that is what it is...a waste.
2007-09-15 10:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
here is the truth. he probably never loved you. i know that sounds harsh. i don't mean to sound harsh, but if a person can walk out on someone after 23 years of marriage because of an illness.... well like i said he never really loved you. he used you!!!!!!!!
2007-09-15 10:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by susta1951 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an insensitive prick that was looking for an excuse to bail. You'll be better off without him.
2007-09-15 10:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋