Why is it not OK for wives to go to strip clubs, look at naked male photos on-line, and check out other men, and so on, the thing all the men do and call it "normal". One man said that he went to a strip club to look at young breasts. What if his wife go to some club to look at young penises?
Shouldn't it be equal?
2007-09-15 02:52:24 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ABSOLUTELY!!!! Finally someone understands!!!
2007-09-21 02:14:01 · answer #1 · answered by donkey_biscuits 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My husband would not be mad if I went to a male strip club.. me personally I would rather sit a the female strip club with him.. Sorry guys you got the short end of the stick so to speak when it comes to having beautiful bodies.
I think those men are just narrow minded and insecure and know that their wife's can do better so they want to keep them sheltered.
2007-09-21 09:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have absolutely no problem with my wife going to a strip club. Nor do I have a problem with her looking at nude photos, either on line, in magazines or in a video.
Never have, never will have such a problem. She comes home to me after all, so...where is the harm?
Oh and for benefit of the lady above..she has gone to strip clubs before with a bunch of her friends. And as an adult with a free will, she does not 'belong' to me..I don't own her. If something she wants to do makes me uncomfortable, I say so and then we talk about it. Just as we do if she is uncomfortable about something I might want to do. But even so, I trust her to make the decision right for her.
2007-09-15 03:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yeah it should be equal. Sadly though it can't be coz only the women get pregnant. Try to equalize in some other ways to neutralize the situation; otherwise, you're bringing not only both of you down but your kids as well, and this is one equality that isn't worth fighting or longing for.
2007-09-15 06:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by wind m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a good healthy marriage, neither person would want to go look at other people naked.
All you are saying is, "you don't do it for me so I want to look at others" Call it whatever you want to try to justify it but that is what is happening. I love my husband more than anything on Earth...so why would I need to go look at other men? I have no need or desire to do so.
2007-09-20 05:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is how I look at it....If my husband wouldn't mind other men seeing me naked and dancing on a pole at a club....then I have no problem with him going to a strip club. I am a firm believer...if it is an activity that he wouldn't want me to partake of...then he has no business watching other women do it......After all...the naked women belong to someone somehow...someones wife, girlfriend, daughter, mother or sister....as I belong to my husband. I think men will say that they are ok with their wife going to a strip club without them...because they are banking on the fact that they won't go because it doesn't interest them like it does a male.
EDIT: For the gentleman below me....I belong to my husband...it doesn't mean that he owns me. This is how we both see the situation with strip clubs or any other questionable behavior....we have talked about theses issues and he agrees with what I have said.....so it works for us....and if you and your spouse agree with how you think great! I do believe the question was more or less posed for men with double standards....not for spouses who have no problem with one another attending such places.
2007-09-15 03:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Not sayng I agree with it, but women and men are different. To men, seeing a naked woman dancing around a pole doesn't diminish his feelings for his wife a bit. It's not important where you get your apetite as long as you eat at home.
Women are less disconnected emotionally in sex and men pick up on that. So we are more protective (controlling?).
Also, you know that many men are sexually insecure. For their wives to go see men selected for their bodies and perhaps "size", invites an unwelcomed comparison.
Lastly, in sex men are aggressors entering women. Society, as a whole, finds man-rape (by a woman) almost laughable or at least dismissable. And there is a big difference psychologically between a man having an affair with a large-breasted woman and a woman having an affair with a hugle hung man. This might only be a strip club thing but the gravity of the disparity carries over.
2007-09-15 03:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by jcsuperstar714 4 · 1⤊ 6⤋
i just think if he wants a strip club then role play. make the bedroom into a little strip club and you serve him drinks then start giving him what he thinks his missing. you should have fun with him, he want pictures make him the photographer and you take pictures how ever he wants it, he wants porn get the camera out and ready set action.
2007-09-21 09:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by CYM_2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW,I'm for this,but my husband would have an attack. Ladies don't want to look at such things.(bull) I'm to old to even want to see young penises.(Ha,never) I enjoy looking at a young hard body.But,it will never be equal.Woman is motherhood and family all loving,but not seeing.I think men are afraid we will compare,and they will come up short (HA,Ha)
2007-09-20 22:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by lotteda717 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have witnessed females at male strip shows & take it from me they act far more unhibitingly disgusting than males do.
They tend to feel that if they get out with other girls at a show like that they have a licence to carry on like tarts.
My personal view is that only tarts do go to these type of shows & if a partner of mine ever went & I learnt about it - that would be the end!
2007-09-15 03:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Because they don't want others degrading their wives for looking at other men. It's called male ego. It's supposed to be normal for a man to want to look at other naked women but a man's wife is supposed to be committed to him alone. To some, a "wife" is supposed to be a home cleaning HIS house, washing HIS clothes, baking HIS bread, caring for HIS kids, and tending to HIS needs. Some men know what a marriage is all about but others seem to think that when you sign the license, he has ownership of this person and is there for his convenience. I personally don't think it's ok for either but that's just me. I have no want or need to see another naked body other than my husband's. His does it all for me.
2007-09-15 03:22:14 · answer #11 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋