Problems with my Mum!!?

Question

She never listens to me. For example...

I tell Mum something that actually benefits her, not me. She either is busy on the computer and ignores me, doesn't listen or starts up another conversation with someone else while I'm trying to tell her something.
Then 5minutes later, she'll come back and ask me a question about the thing I was just telling her.

It drives me insane.

Also, I was talking to her about my results for school and how close I am to getting into University, then she began to txt and change the subject to talk about my brother and how he was going surfing, right when I'm trying to talk to her about something important.

If it's really important I'll say 'Mum can you please just stop and listen to me' but she never does!!

What can I do? I'm giving up even

My Dad lives in a different country. I don't talk to him. My brother is 15, he's too self absorbed in his own life to care about his big sister.

It's funny, because when my Mum wants to talk to me about something, she expects my full undivided attention!

Answer 1

I believe Dad to be totally incorrect, that will only cause friction.
I grew up in a big family and had trouble getting my mothers attention.

In hindsight if we had computers then
I would write a mail and explain how I felt, timing it to arrive when she wasn't busy, and if possible when you are not there.
She will have time to think about what you have said, by the time you meet again.

Answer 2

Whenever you want to get someones attention talk in a whisper not a loud voice.You'd be surprised when people talk in a hushed voice people will listen just in case they might miss something.It is difficult when you feel that you are being ignored and quite often there is very little we can do to get someones attention.Continue to talk to your mom and just accept the fact she is not a good listener.A lot of people are better talkers than listeners .It just hurts more because she is your mother .You don't have to stop caring for your mother but that does not mean you have to like what she does ( or in this case is not doing).Take care.

Answer 3

I think that you should just try to focus on trying to be a better person, of course not to impress your mom or anyone but for the sake of preserving your own integrity. Don't be one of those children who go to such extremes of engaging in self-destructive activities so that they can get noticed by their parents. Keep on pursuing your dreams and don't let this situation get the best of you. I am sure your mom will come around one day and get to see what she's been missing out on. Don't ever feel like your mom does this because you're not worth her attention because that's just simply not true. Try discussing this with your mother, not while she's busy but when you are able to get her undivided attention.

Answer 4

Hi Wabby, Just tell your mom that every time you try to tell her something that is important to you she doesn't listing and this is hurting your feeling and making you think that she doesn't care about you and what you want to do in your life. Which this is true and maybe mom will start listing and try to help you in some of the things you want to do. Just try it and you may be surprised what happens.
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Answer 5

Good morning Wabby.

Since your mother does not appreciate your communication with her, the best I can suggest is to play the same game.

Whenever you are talking to your mother and she simply runs off, this is called disrespect, although she may not see it that way... Switching topic without a valid reason is considered disrespectful...

Your solution to this issue is demonstrated below:

Mom: Wabby, today I was at the Mall and I saw a lovely bag.

Wabby: That's nice Mom. I am sorry though, but I have to make a call to my friends.
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Mom: Wabby, I need to talk to you about something.

Wabby: Sure. So what's up?

When your mother begins talking, do other things to show that you are not paying attention. She will attack, not now, but pretty soon. I'll help you understand how you'll defend yourself when she attacks.

Mom: Wabby, your brother is surfing badly. I can't seem to get over it.

Wabby: O am sorry, Mom, but what did you say?

Mom will eventually attack " I notice you do not need me around anymore. You do not pay attention to what I say to you. You are always talking with your friends... You are always making a fool out of me.

Your response: " I am just playing the game you play, Mom."

Simple as that.

Answer 6

Maybe you should stop her from doing whatever she is doing, and sternly say, Mum!! I really need your help. Everytime i try to talk to you, you never listen and it makes me very frustrated. All i ask for is a little moment of your time! And if that doesnt work, maybe ask your dad or your brother to talk to her about it. Just have them say how you feel like she doesnt care about you when you ask her questions. im not sure if any of that will help or not. its really hard to stand up to your parents

Answer 7

Maybe you could write her a letter telling her how you feel about this ,ask her why she does it .