My wife and I have been married for 7 years, been together 10. Since we met I've been trying to get her to go on vacation with me. I told her wherever she wants to go- Paris, Italy, Hawaii- wherever- I would take her. She won't go because she's deathly afraid of flying.
Her best friend is a gay man and they've been friends since high school. I've met him (and his partner) numerous times- he's a nice enough guy. He even came to our wedding. My wife talks to him on the phone all the time and they go shopping together.
About 3 months ago he moved to Seattle (we live in Michigan). My wife told me yesterday that she booked a flight out to see him for a few days. I reminded her that she hates flying and won't go anywhere with me so why is she flying out to see him? She said she misses him- he's her best friend.
I am very upset and hurt right now over the fact that she'll fly for him but not for me. She didn't even consult with me before booking the flight. What should I do??
2007-09-15 00:00:12 · 8 answers · asked by Troy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh wow.. now thats the new reason why i hate gays.. i guess ur gonna have to sit down and talk to her about this
2007-09-15 00:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you should look at this as a positive step towards the final goal. If she flys and it isn't as bad as she thought then she may be able to do it again. It may be that a vacation was not a motivator since she can have one without flying but she has no choice if she wants to see her friend. She is setting a new precedent and you can use it in the future to further your argument.
Above all else do not make the mistake of letting her leave mad at her. Send her off with happy thoughts of your life together. After all you want her to miss you don't you?
2007-09-15 07:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Book a flight for yourself to Paris, Italy, Hawaii, wherever you want to go. And don't forget to send postcards telling of the great time you are having.
2007-09-15 07:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, your wife is willing to endure her fear of flying if only to be with a close friend. She refused to fly with you, however, to go on a vacation. It is not as though she had refused to fly to you when you were in Paris, or Italy, or Hawaii.
I think that if you had been away somewhere, your wife would face her fear of flying and fly to you.
2007-09-15 07:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need to sit her down and ask her what is really going on with her. Brace yourself because something could surface that you might not like but it'd better to know at the end of the day. She seems to care more about her mate than how you feel.
2007-09-15 07:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by lizziewindolene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her who is more important, her friend or her husband!!! Tell her that if she goes on this trip, either she takes one with you, or you are going alone and leave her at home!!
2007-09-15 07:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely sure that he's gay? Or do you think he's gay because your wife told you he was? Beware pal!
2007-09-15 07:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu sjould surpise her and go along.
2007-09-15 07:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by muggyspin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋