i'm 16 n she's 15 n she's 4 weeks late. we didn't use a condom - onlt the once but she recons she's preg. I do luv her n will stand by her but her dad will probably kill me- help!
2007-09-14 20:14:32 · 26 answers · asked by blackshirt 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
you want to find out for 100% that she is pregnant cause you dont want to go tell him when you might be!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-14 20:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well before you do ANYTHING else, tell your gf to get a pregnancy test. There are plenty of Health Clinics that can confirm a home pregnancy test. Try to remember that at 16 and 15, thinking isn't one of your strongest suits, and to tell her parents before you know 100% for certain is not the wisest move. As for her Dad being upset.......let me tell you that he will be p*ssed.......look at it through his eyes, you have managed to change his daughter's entire future, the things he had hoped and dreamed of may NEVER happen now because of one careless encounter. Reality is that you have a limited ability to provide for a wife, let alone a baby, and that he will probably be forced to take full responsibility. At 16, you are not even close to graduating High School and let's face it a High School Diploma is the bare minimum to get a job at most convenience stores. Add to this equation that somewhere around 90% of marriages and even relationships for children 18 and under FAIL within the first year and you might understand why Dad might be upset. Of course he is going to respect you more if you do tell him rather than letting your gf do it alone. I don't envy your position, you are going to have to become a man and a father virtually overnight.
2007-09-14 20:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by canuck1950 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK if she's 4 weeks late you might wanna take a home pregnancy test. That way you can confirm if she is or not. If she is than both of you have to tell both your parents (not just hers) your situation. By telling both of your parents everyone can come to an agreement on what is best. If the test comes out negative than that's good it just means that she was stressing. However, you need to protect yourselves and practice safe sex...take care and good luck!!!
2007-09-15 04:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by NENA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu know all the parents will blow up. First have her take a pregnancy test. If it is negative and still hasn't had her period, test again. Get to a doctor if you need to diagnosis it.
Only you and your gf know your parents........you need to make the best decision of how to tell everyone. if you are old enough to have sex and creat a baby, then you are old enough to stand up to the parents. Would it be best for your gf to sit down alone with her parents? Or first with her mom? Or the two of you with them. Or the two of you with both sets of parents. And if you put off telling them the worse this will be. It is like a sticky bandaid......pull it off very slow and it hurts...pull it off quickly and it gets over with.
so, be sure she is preg before you tell everyone. Have a plan that you and the gf come up with. Both of you work, Both of you continue high school. Both of your share tending the baby. Or that you will give your child the most precious gift and that is adoption. To a family that can afford to raise a child and can't have children. I adopted my daughter. It was a wonderful gift for me & her.
I hope you have learned a lesson. Stop doing grown up things (sex) Until you are a grown up and can afford to bring a life in to the world.
Please don't consider abortion. Your baby will have a heart ,hands and feet when it gets torn out of your GF's body.
In all my years of nursing, I didn't come across one person who didin't have huge regrets of getting rid of their pregnancy
It is time to step up to the plate and be a man. Stand by each other. Realize that you are taking on a huge thing here by growing a baby.
2007-09-14 20:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
First off, take her to get a pregnancy test. Second, yes, you should have used protection because it only takes one time! Third, yes, you have to tell her parents no matter what the consequence is because she is still only 15 and is their daughter. They need to make sure she gets the help she needs for the baby, if she decides to have it.
2007-09-18 10:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Debi N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to get with your Pastor, Priest or Rabi
and let them help you with her parents as well as yours.
Maybe they can even help you plan your funeral at the
same time. Has her dad never told her about boys? I
think I would wait a while before I went on a fishing trip
with him.
2007-09-14 20:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by wayne g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that your gf goes to Planned Parenthood and has a blood test to confirm that she is indeed pregnant. Otherwise, you're gonna have a really angry dad for no reason!! If she is pregnant, make sure you and your gf talk everything through before telling her parents. You want them to know that you are serious about your responsibility as a parent.
2007-09-14 20:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by darylsgirl1114 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
OK Help is what your going to need i think :)
OK find out for shore that she is pregnant after all she could have something alts going on that you where not aware of that could interfere with the menstruation.
after finding out that yes she is pregnant then think about telling the dad, I will say this much for you but if your willing to stay with her after the fact that you know that she is pregnant then i think that it should count in your favour, I know it would if it was my child involved with this, as if you where not staying with the girl then i would be incline to change you from a roster to a hen, i am not 100% certe that her dad will not try that anyway.
good luck with this (your going to need it i think)
2007-09-14 23:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
go and get a pregnancy test first and then find out for sure but if she is then i think you need to be there to support her in telling her parents and vice versa good luck and hey use a CONDOM or just don't do it at all and stick by your child to be good luck
2007-09-14 22:10:37 · answer #9 · answered by vicky_vicstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥ ... dear daddy-to-be: ..... ♥
1) Take a home pregnancy test. If she is pregnant, proceed to the next step.
2) Talk to your girlfriend about keeping the baby, giving it up for adoption, or abortion.. Come to a conclusion, keeping in mind the financial and spiritual aspects.
3) Tell your parents first, if its easier, if they are more relaxed, if not.. tell hers first..
4) To tell them, wait until you are able to have dinner with them, and calmly explain that you need to be able to talk to them about something.. hold her hand, and explain the situation and what you plan to do to them. If the dad is scary, I suggest you and your gf telling her mom first, and then sitting down to tell the dad after the mom has had time to let it sink in.
If you love her, please stand by her. This is a life lesson, and try to remember that everything happens for a reason. GOD has a plan. If this wasnt meant to be, one of you would have mentioned the condom about 4 weeks ago!
Remember that it is ultimately her decision. If you can prove yourself to be worthy enough for her in front of her parents though, that will make things a lot easier. Be there for her if shes moody, or scared, or hurt, or wondering, or confused, happy, sad, upset, crazy... BE THERE period.
Life is about SHOWING UP, and being PRESENT.
♥ ♥
Gina
2007-09-14 20:59:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Just tell them. Then go to the nearest Mcdonalds and get a job, forgoing school of course since your family will need you to support them. Make sure you get full time so you can get insurance since there will be doctor bills to cover. Oh wait, you are probably considering welfare. Of course its always better to expect other people to support your family and pay for your screw ups.
2007-09-14 22:01:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋